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QUOTES

A Collection Of Thoughts & Wisdoms On

Leadership and Service

 

A charging Tiger doesn't have an off switch!

 

A social conscience without personal relationship is

like cut flowers - rootless and soon to wither.

 

Be brave enough to live creatively. The creative is

the place where no one else has ever been. You have to

leave the city of your comfort and go into the

wilderness of your intuition. You can't get there by

bus, only by hard work, risking and by not quite

knowing what you're doing. What you'll discover will

be wonderful: yourself.

- Alan Alda

 

 

There is nothing new under the sun, but there are lots

of old things we don't know.

- Ambrose Bierce

 

It has been said, and I believe not without reason,

that keepers of asylums who live, without any variety

of intercourse and occupation, exclusively in the

company of the insane, are themselves apt to become of

unsound mind; and that of those who escape insanity

there are comparatively few who do not ultimately

acquire the peculiar expression of eye which is

observable in lunatics. If, the constant exposure to

the society of lunatics be in any case sufficient to

give rise to madness in a previously healthy mind, it

is as clear as the light of day that the same influence

must retard the recovery of those whose minds are

already deranged; and that, on the same principle, it

must be of importance to subject the lunatic

continually to the restorative influence of the society

of healthy and well-regulated minds.

Every day brings fresh conviction within, that the more

nearly we can approximate our treatment of the insane

to that of reasonable beings, the more successful will

we be in effecting cures, and the more delightful will

the duty become of ministering to the mind diseased.

Principles of Physiolog Andrew Combe, M.D.1842

 

 

 

We live in terror because persuasion is no longer

possible...because man can no longer tap that part of

his nature, as real as the historical part, which he

recaptures in contemplating the beauty of nature and of

human faces... We suffocate among people who think they

are absolutely right, whether in their machines or

their ideas. And for all those who can live only in an

atmosphere of human dialogue... this silence is the end

of the world.

- Albert Camus Neither Victims nor Executioners

 

 

 

 

The most beautiful thing we can experience is the

mysterious. It is the source of all true art and

science.

-Albert Einstein

 

 

Everything should be made as simple as possible, but

not simpler.

-Albert Einstein

 

 

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look

so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we

do not see the one which has opened for us.

- Alexander Graham Bell

 

 

Discovery consists of looking at the same thing as

everyone else and thinking something different.

- Albert Szent-Gyorgyi

 

We apprehend our god in the alternate voids and

fullness of a cathedral; in the space that separates

the salient fractures of a picture; in the living

geometry of a flower, a seashell, and animal; in the

pauses and intervals between the notes of music, in

their differences of tones and sonority; and finally,

on the plane of conduct, in the love and gentleness,

the confidence and humility, which give beauty to the

relationships between human beings.

- Aldous Huxley

 

 

Our accepted differences and diversities must be pooled

into a common purpose worthy of our efforts as tribes

and as a nation.

 

 

Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of

them?

- Abraham Lincoln

 

 

 

I told God that I had done all that I could; now the

result was in his hands; if this country was to be

saved, it was because He so willed it. The burden fell

off my shoulders, my intense anxiety was relieved, and

in its place came a great trustfulness!

- Abraham Lincoln

 

 

Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to

test a man's character, give him power.

--Abraham Lincoln

 

 

When you have got an elephant by the hind legs and he

is trying to run away, it's best to let him run.

-- Abraham Lincoln

 

You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.

You cannot build character by taking away man's

initiative. You cannot help men permanently by doing

for them what they could and should do for themselves.

- Abraham Lincoln

 

 

I dreamed I had a child, and even in the dream I saw

that it was my life, and it was an idiot, and I ran

away. But it always crept into my lap again, clutched

at my clothes. Until I thought, if I could kiss it,

whatever in it was my own, perhaps I could sleep. And

I bent over its broken face, and it was horrible...but

I kissed it. I think that one must finally take one's

life into one's arms...

Authur Miller After the Fall The Disabled & their Parents

 

There is no more noble occupation in the world than to

assist another human being--to help someone succeed.

--Alan Loy McGinnis

 

 

THE AMBULANCE DOWN IN THE VALLEY

Twas a dangerous cliff as they freely confessed

though to walk near its edge was quite pleasant

but over the side slipped a Duke and a Prince

and it had fooled many a peasant.

The people all said something had to be done

though their projects did not at all tally.

Some said put a fence round the edge of the cliff.

Other's an ambulance down in the valley.

The lament of the crowd was profound and so loud

as their hearts overflowed with great pity

but the ambulance carried the cry of the day

as it spread to the neighboring cities.

A collection was made to accumulate aid

and dwellers in highway and alley

gave dollars and cents not to furnish a fence

but an ambulance down in the valley.

For the cliff is alright if you're careful they said

and if folks ever trip and are falling

it's not the slipping and sliding that hurts

so much as the shock when they're stopping.

And so on for years as these mishaps occurred

a quick forth on the rescuers sally

to pick up the victims who fell from the cliff

with the ambulance down in the valley.

Said one in his plea, "It's a marvel to me,

that you'd give so much greater attention,

to repairing results then to curing the cause.

Why you'd much better aim at prevention.

The mischief of course should be stopped at its source.

Come neighbors and friends let's rally.

It makes far better sense to rely on a fence

than an ambulance down in the valley."

He's wrong in his head the majority said.

He would end all our earnest endeavors.

He's the kind of a jerk that would halt our good work

but we will support it forever!

Don't we pick up them all just as quick as they fall

and treat them with care quite liberally?

A superfluous fence is of no consequence

if the ambulance works in the valley."

- Author Unknown

 

 

Among a hundred mirrors before yourself

false..strangled in your own noose SELF knower! Self

executioner! crammed between two nothings a question

mark...

- Nietzsche

 

 

 

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us.

What we have done for others and the world remains and

is immortal.

--Albert Pine

 

 

As the cold water gushed forth,... I spelled

"w-a-t-e-r" in Helen's free hand... She dropped the mug

and stood as one transfixed. A new light came into her

face....Then she dropped on the ground and asked for

its name and pointed to the pump and the trellis, and

suddenly turning round she asked for my name. I spelled

"Teacher."

- Ann Sullivan

 

 

Compassion is the basis of all morality.

- Arthur Schopenhauer

 

 

Example is not the main thing in influencing others.

It is the only thing.

- Albert Schweitzer

 

 

 

 

 

The most elementary ethical principle, when understood

by the heart, means that out of reverence for the

unfathomable, infinite, and living Reality we call God,

we must never consider ourselves strangers toward any

human being. Rather, we must bind ourselves to the

task of sharing his experiences and try being of help

to him.

- Albert Schweitzer Reverence for Life

 

Boundless compassion for all living beings is the

surest and most certain guarantee of pure moral

conduct, and needs no casuistry. Whoever is filled

with it will assuredly injure no one, do harm to no

one, encroach on no man's rights; he will rather have

regard for everyone, forgive everyone, help everyone as

far as he can, and all his actions will bear the stamp

of justice and loving-kindness.

- Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860)

The Basis of Morality

 

The first step in the evolution of ethics is a sense of

solidarity with other human beings.

- Albert Schweitzer

 

 

The only ones among you who will be really happy and

those who will have sought and found how to serve.

- Albert Schweitzer

 

 

Civilizations die of suicide, not by murder.

- Arnold Toynbee

 

 

Future shock is the dizzying orientation brought on by

the premature arrival of the future.

- Alvin Toffler

 

 

Written reports have purpose only if read by the king.

Wise chieftains cause Huns to be tested in their

discipline through a successive scheme of opportunities

in which their physical and emotional stamina is tried.

However, chieftains should never test Huns beyond

reasonable capacity.

When the consequences of your decision are too grim to

bear, look for another option. Compassion is the

byword when making difficult decisions that,

unavoidably, have temporary or long-lasting adverse

consequences for even a few Huns.

To experience the strength of chieftains we must

tolerate some of their weaknesses.

The spirit of unity must be a cardinal principle in the

ways and attitudes of all Huns. Once divided, we are

easily made subject to foreign nations.

The consequence for not adequately training your Huns

is their failure to accomplish that which is expected

of them.

Should you become aware that defeat on the battlefield

or in negotiations is impending, don't deny it. Face

it and take immediate action to minimize the opponent's

gain and get back to your cause.

Our accepted differences and diversities must be pooled

into a common purpose worthy of our efforts as tribes

and as a nation.

Noble resolve to do the right thing is characteristic

of prudent decision making. Responsible decisions are

difficult to improve upon.

Next to the importance of knowing when to make a

decision stands the insight to know when to forgo

making one. Impatient chieftains often precipitate

premature action.

Never expect your Huns to always be compatible. But

expect their differences to be resolvable without the

spread of discontent to other Huns.

Know that your most worthy efforts will be scorned by

your peers, for it is they who suffer most when you

excel. If your actions and ambitions threaten them

not, you're simply striving toward the insignificant.

In the end, vision, drive, energy, singleness of

purpose, wise use of resources and a commitment to a

destiny worthy of his efforts become a character of a

chieftain who excels.

In selecting an alternative, wise chieftains look for

the choice in which the benefits outweigh the risks and

costs of the decision. Noble chieftains make decisions

in favor of the common good.

If an incompetent chieftain is removed, seldom do we

appoint his highest-ranking subordinate to his place.

For when a chieftain has failed, so likewise have his

subordinate leaders.

Huns should engage only in wars they can win.

Great chieftains never take themselves too seriously.

Do not underestimate the power of an enemy, no matter

how great or small, to rise against you on another day.

Do not expect everyone to agree with you -- even if you

are king.

Discipline should be expected only at those levels of

order and conformity that serve the good of the tribe

or nation. Demanding more than is required is an abuse

of power and will give rise to rebellion within the

tribe.

Discipline is not suppression. It is the teaching of

correct ways expected of Huns.

Discipline does not mean a loss of individuality.

Chieftains never condone a lack of either morale or

discipline. They plan for morale and discipline! They

cause it to happen!

Chieftains must avoid decisions that favor themselves

at the expense of the Huns. Every decision is an

opportunity to improve the conditions of the Huns, the

tribe and the nation.

Chieftains are often betrayed by those they trust most.

Being a leader of the Huns is often a lonely job.

Always remember that worthy causes meet with the most

resistance--even internal withholding of support and

loyalty. If victory is easily gained, you must

reconsider the worthiness of your ambitions.

Always pay proper courtesy to your subordinate leaders.

Should you fail to accord them respect, so will their

subordinates.

A wise chieftain never kills the Hun bearing bad news.

Rather, the wise chieftain kills the Hun who fails to

deliver bad news.

A wise chieftain never asks a question for which he

doesn't want to hear the answer.

A nation of one ancestry and race is weak. We must

hold strong our custom of welcoming all foreigners who

seek to join our cause, treating them with dignity and

respect and teaching them our language and customs.

A Hun without a purpose will never know when he has

achieved it.

A chieftain should choose a well-made sword, not one

glittering with jewel and gold but one honed to a sharp

edge and made of the finest material in the land. A

sword is the mark of a chieftain. His sword, like the

chieftain himself, must prevail in battle. A chieftain

should dress in fine skins, and furs -- not those

draped by gold and silver adornments. Pompous

appearance breeds hate and gives rise to contempt and

laughter among the ranks.

A chieftain neither dresses nor arms himself at the

expense of his Huns. His dress and weaponry may be of

subtle distinction as is accepted by custom. Yet it

must never be offensive in its cost or in its style,

nor should its intent be to project noble superiority

over those he leads, lest they scorn him for it.

A chieftain can never be in charge if he rides in the rear.

- Atilla the Hun

 

 

He who wishes to fulfill his mission in this world must

be a man of one idea, that is, of one great

overmastering purpose, overshadowing all his aims, and

guiding and controlling his entire life.

- Bate

 

 

Faith without works is like a bird without wings;

though she may hop about on earth, she will never fly

to heaven. But when both are joined together, then

doth the soul mount up to her eternal rest.

- Beaumont

 

 

Living well is living free.

- Burton Blatt

 

 

Somewhere I once wrote that while illnesses are man's

curse, handicaps (stigmas attached to illnesses) are

his invention. I wondered then when will we learn the

difference between what we must endure and what we

bring upon ourselves. I complained that while we still

have lots to learn about illnesses, we seem to have

everything to learn about handicaps; that while not all

illnesses have effective treatments, all handicaps are

preventable and curable. Handicaps are a condition of

the soul.

- Burton Blatt

 

 

If anything goes bad, I did it. If anything goes

semi-good, then we did it. If anything goes real good,

then you did it. That's all it takes to get people to

win football games for you.

- Bear Bryant

 

 

It should be a sobering reminder to us that, when the

pioneers in our field undertook this task, despite the

greatest good will and thoughtful deliberation they led

to the development of modern institutional settings. In

offering enormous benefits, their work led to the loss

of everything important to their beneficiaries.

- Burton Blatt

 

 

When you're through changing, you're through.

- Bruce Barton

 

 

We are all born for love. It is the principle of

existence, and its only end.

- Benjamin Disraeli

 

 

BEATITUDES FOR FRIENDS OF THE HANDICAPPED

Blessed are you who take the time

To listen to difficult speech,

For you help me to know that

If I persevere,

I can be understood.

Blessed are you who never bid me

To "hurry up"

Or take my tasks from me

And do them for me,

For I often need time rather than help.

Blessed are you who stand beside me

As I enter new and untried ventures,

for my failures will be outweighed

By the times I surprise

Myself and you.

Blessed are you who asked

For my help,

For my greatest need is to be needed.

Blessed are you who understand that

It is difficult for me

To put my thoughts into words.

Blessed are you who with a smile,

Encourage me to try once more.

Blessed are you

Who never remind me

That today I asked the

Same question twice.

Blessed are you who respect me

And love me just as I am.

- Anonymous

 

 

We first raise the dust and then claim we cannot see.

- Berkeley

 

 

Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.

- Ben Franklin

 

 

 

 

 

Love your enemies, for they tell you your faults.

- Ben Franklin

 

 

A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more

than a whole book of praise after a success.

- Bits & Pieces

 

 

Day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment there are

ordinary people who use their freedom to work for the

freedom of others.

- Bruce Springsteen

 

 

Success is a journey, not a destination.

- Ben Sweetland

 

 

"You can see things that are, and you say "Why? but I

see things that never were and I say, "Why not?"

- G. B. Shaw

 

 

Decay is inherent in all compounded things. Strive on

with diligence.

- Buddha's last words

 

No matter what the dogma.. There still remains birth,

old age, death, sorrow, lamentation, misery, grief and

despair. And it is against these, here on earth, that

I am prescribing.

- Buddha

 

 

Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon way.

* * *

You can't hold a man down without staying down with

him.

* * *

There are two ways of exerting one's strength: one is

pushing down, the other is pulling up.

- Booker T. Washington

 

 

The grand essentials of happiness are something to do,

something to love, and something to hope for.

- Chalmers

 

 

If I could never really be like other people then at

least I would be like myself and make the best of it.

- Christy Brown

My Left Foot

 

 

If the misery of the poor be not caused by the laws of

nature, but by our institutions, great is our sin.

- Charles Darwin

Voyage of the Beagle

 

 

There are not office hours for leaders.

- Cardinal Gibbons

 

 

Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a

man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.

- Chinese Proverb

 

 

A young branch takes on all the bends that one gives it.

- Chinese Proverb

 

 

"Every psychological extreme secretly contains its own

opposite or stands in some sort of intimate and

essential relation to it... There is no hollowed custom

that cannot on occasion turn in to its opposite and the

more extreme a position, the more easily may we

expect... a conversion of something into its opposite."

- C.G. Jung

 

 

I plan to spend the rest of my life in the future, so I

want to be reasonably sure what kind of future it is

going to be. That is my reason for planning.

- Charles Kettering, Industrialist 1950

 

 

"Come to the edge", he said

They said: "We're afraid."

"Come to the edge", he said.

They came.

He pushed them...and they flew.

 

 

Faith is an outward and visible sign of an inward and

spirtual grace.

- Book of Common Prayer

 

 

Tzu Kung asked: "Is there any one word that can serve

as a principle for the conduct of life?" Confucius

said: "Perhaps the word 'reciprocity': Do not do to

others what you would not want others to do to you."

- Confucius

 

"The way out is through the door. Why is it that no

one will use this exit?"

- Confucius

 

 

The Apostle Paul had mixed feelings about his own

disability:

And to keep me from being too elated by the abundance

of revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a

messenger of Satan, to harass me, to keep me from being

too elated. Three times I besought the Lord about this

that it should leave me; but he said to me, "My grace

is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in

weakness." I will all the more gladly boast of my

weakness, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with

weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and

calamities, for when I am weak, then I am strong.

- 2 Corinthians 12:7-10

 

 

 

 

 

Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching

them with your hands. But like the seafaring man on

the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides,

and following them you will reach your destiny.

- Carl Schurz

 

 

There is just cause to celebrate the frail but stubborn

budding of a new vision -- based on the oldest wisdom

we contain. If we nurture that vision with the

likelihood of our ideas and our efforts, we -- and our

children .. may be rewarded with a future worth

living."

- Charlene Spretnak

 

 

The mission of the Department of Mental Retardation is

to join with others to create the conditions under

which all persons with mental retardation experience:

- Presence and participation in Connecticut town life

- Opportunities to develop and exercise competence

- Opportunities to make choices in the pursuit of a

personal future

- Good relationships with family members and friends

- Respect and dignity

- Mission Statement, Connecticut Dept. of

Mental Retardation

 

"Government has the divine task of preserving the

world."

- Dietrich Bonhoeffer Ethics p. 344

 

 

Leadership: the art of getting someone else to do

something you want done because he wants to do it.

- Dwight D. Eisenhower

 

 

Though force can protect in emergency, only justice,

fairness, consideration and cooperation can finally

lead men to the dawn of eternal peace.

- Dwight D. Eisenhower

 

 

If there is among you a poor man, one of your brethren,

in any of your towns within your land which the LORD

your God gives you, you shall not harden your heart or

shut your hand against your poor brother, but you shall

open your hand to him, and lend him sufficient for his

need, whatever it may be.

You shall give to him freely, and your heart shall not

be grudging when you give to him; because for this the

LORD your God will bless you in all your work and in

all that you undertake.

For the poor will never cease out of the land;

therefore I command you, You shall open wide your hand to your brother, to the needy and to the poor, in the land.

- The Torah/Deuteronomy 15.4,12

 

 

A LANGUAGE OF ACCEPTANCE

We are coming to understand that our mission is to help

persons experiencing disabling conditions to find:

home, friends, family and work. These are the central

activities of life, they are important to each of us

and are present in the every day aspects of each of our

own lives.

 

In our roles as professionals helping persons find

home, friends, family and work we are often the bridge

between an individuals past and future. In this role

it is important to not introduce artificial barriers to

acceptance. Our language is a powerful influence on how we perceive each other, directly leading to degrees of acceptance and rejection. Gordon Alport, In "The Nature

of Prejudice" observes that language is always the

first step in the process of separating an individual

or group from the larger society. The use of words

that identify a person or group as being different

creates a focus on that difference. It defines the

difference and communicates that difference to

increasing numbers of other people. This is an

insidious process, for verbal disenfranchisement

deepens attitudes, creates consensus on the fundamental

nature of the differentness and leads to active forms

of discrimination, separation and ultimately

victimization. The process of separation feeds and

builds on each element. Attitudes create words, words

create and deepen attitudes, attitudes lead to action,

and actions then require more sharply defined words.

Can words and language be used to encourage acceptance?

 

The reality is that special language will always

communicate differentness and separation. The language

of acceptance can only be the language found in the

daily experience of friends, family, home and work. The

test for a language of acceptance is the presence of

words in our own relationships with our own friends and

family. Non of us would ever call a family member a

client, a resident, a consumer or folk. Instead we

would call people that are important to us by there

name. At the end of a long day, each of us goes home.

Few of us return to our group home, our program, our

ICF, our CLA or our facility. People with valued roles

have friends, relatives, co-workers and neighbors as

the major persons in their lives. Those of us with

valued roles will rarely identify people in key

relationships as our staff, our RSW, our advocate, our

team leader or our volunteer. You and I go to work in

the morning. Why must some people go to their workshop, their day program, their supported work placement or their partial program. In addition there are many other

words that do not seem to have counter parts in regular

lives. These include: MH/MR, slot, beds, team, PD,

QMRP, intake, mentally retarded, mentally ill,

placement, utilization, discharge, incontinent,

ambulatory, self preservation, deinstitutionalize,

agency, system, BSU, IPP and meds. What is so stunning

is that these words rarely add useful information to

our communication as is evidenced by the language of

John O'Brian and Robert Perske.

Recently, Patrick Worth delivered the Keynote address

to over 2000 persons at the national TASH conference in

Washington. Mr. Worth is president of People First in

Ontario and identifies himself as a person who was

labeled as being Mentally Retarded. Mr. Worth, in

speaking of the power of words, charged that

application of the word Mental Retardation is a life

sentence and for some is a death sentence.

As a society we have become very sensitive about the

power of racist and sexist language. Why is it that

more of the persons that are the targets of a language

of rejection do not counter charge "disableist"? Is it

possible that our language has already forged a

debilitating social role of eternal "clienthood"?

As friends, family, neighbors and professionals we have

a choice. Would any of us ever say: "Hello my name is

John, I'm a client in a Community Living Arrangement

for MRs. I was discharged from the State Center and I

now go to a sheltered workshop during the day." Or

would we simply say: "My name is John Wilson. My home

is on Second Street in Camp Hill and I work at General

Electric."

I have discovered that confronting my language forces a

struggle with basic values and attitudes. It is not

easy and it is not simple. This is not an issue of a

list of approved and non approved words. It is about

the roles, perceptions and expectations that exist

among and between persons that are currently

experiencing disabling conditions and those that are

not. Our language is a public window on our deepest

feeling about those attitudes. I invite each of you to

join in this very challenging and worthwhile struggle.

- Northstar Gallery

 

 

BY THE ELEVATOR

She sat by the elevator,

Slumped in her wheel chair.

There was twelve of us waiting.

She did not acknowledge us.

We did not see her, she was becoming invisible.

Her presence was so fragile, like that of a ghost

The elevator came.

I hesitated, was she really there?

I returned

Eye contact

Her face exploded into a smile

- dwf

 

 

BUS STOPS

Today, Janelle and I were in my office which overlooks

front street and the M. Harvy Taylor Bridge. I was

looking out the window and my attention was caught by

a young women. She had climbed over the rail onto the

superstructure of the bridge. She was about 100 feet

above the Susquehanna. She then grabbed the top rail

with her hands and dangled over the water. I dialed 911

gave my name address, phone number and the nature of

the problem. While I was dialing 911, a bus turned

onto the bridge and as it approached the woman it

stopped immediately in front of her almost like it was

a regular bus stop. The bus door opened and the bus

driver literally shot out and grabbed the young women

around the shoulders and pinned her against the rail

of the bridge. Cars in front and behind the bus stopped

and their drivers rallied around the bus driver leaned

over the rail, captured the young woman's legs and

hoisted her to the sidewalk where they gently and

securely held her. A police car arrived and the care

of the women was assumed by the police officer. The

whole episode from beginning to end was over within

three minutes. No evidence of the drama remained.

This episode was a window on a major dilemma of our

society. When do we as individuals, as friends, as

neighbors, as passers by reach out to another person

and when do we defer to the formal intervention of the

system. Increasingly our response as a society is to

defer, to dial 911 and then hesitate to reach out, to

help in a private, personal and individualized manner.

At issue is that caring, which is freely given from one

person to another, communicates a concern that is

profoundly different from concern that is essential

but professionally rendered. The essence of this

episode would have been fundamentally different if the

bus driver had not risked and stopped. It is possible

that a crowd would have gathered and a young woman's

personal despair would have become a public event.

For those of us that are professional care givers,

care that is voluntary and freely given and not part

of our formal responsibilities can affirm our own

personal service mission. Bogden writes about a

sociology of acceptance where a person enters into a

private and personal relationship with a person who is

poor, disabled or in need. In such a relationship a

person reaches out, offers help and gets to truly

know the person experiencing the need and begins to

understand that person's life experience. Such

relationships can offer a deep understanding of the

individual's joys, fears, hopes and pain. Ultimately

the relationship transcends that of helper and

helped, and becomes a relationship of equality and

acceptance. In such relationships of acceptance mutual

joys, fears, aspirations and pain are shared and the

person that was in the helper role now identifies with

the realities of their friend's life.

At times all of us will need professional services.

When this is the case we want them to be effective and

timely. We also want help and support from our

friends. In seeking balance between formal and informal

services, professional care givers must be very wise

so that we do not render services in a manner where

the bus drivers no longer stop.

- dwf

 

 

HARVARD

I hear with ears well formed

I see with eyes that see much

I think with a mind that is better than most

My thoughts, hopes and fears are lost in a voice box of

confused cords

My arms and legs flap as pant legs and shirt sleeves

wedded to a buffeted clothesline

You talk to me like I'm a child

You don't see my eyes

I'm lecturing at Harvard next month

You should come

A PROMISE KEPT

A cell too creative

A disappointment from birth

A promise lost

A body whose only use is as a container for me

A mirror for you

An offer of salvation

 

- dwf

 

THE MONSTER

I'm a monster.

I frighten children.

I have never been loved.

People say I would be better off put away.

I live in terror of being hunted.

I reflect your horror of being and of not being.

You need me.

You will not survive without me.

 

- dwf

 

"WE MUST NOT LIMIT OUR COMPASSION TO THOSE WE JUDGE DESERVING, FOR WE OURSELVES DO NOT DESERVE THE COMPASSION OF GOD."

- DECLARATION OF FAITH PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH IN THE U.S.

 

 

WHO IS HE?

Entering a side door I frequently use, my eye caught

the image of a man sitting among the trash cans. Our

eyes met, for only an instant, I thought about stopping

but didn't and in a moment I was in the building and

the instant passed. I remember thinking that I only had

a dollar or two and that would not be enough if I

offered him some money to get something to eat.

That lost moment haunted me for weeks. I kept looking

for him, hoping to have a second chance, but he was

never there. I wondered if the experience really

happened. Was it really conceivable that someone could

be homeless adjacent to a large social service agency?

This morning he was there and our eyes again met, I

said good morning and once more walked through the

door. Had the moment again passed? I continued through

the building, out the front, around the side and

returned to the area of his residency. We talked and I

found we were both from the same area and were about

the same age. We both spoke about our daughters and he

explained how he lost his home and told me about being

interviewed on the radio and television about his

opinion on homelessness in Harrisburg.

I asked if he needed any money to get something to eat.

He asked if I was inviting him to lunch. I stumbled

and said "no", I was offering him something to buy some

food. He said "no thanks, I'm in pretty good shape".

- dwf

 

 

"Asking "what if?" helps remind us that we probably

created the reality in question to begin with."

- Dudley Lynch

 

 

LEADERSHIP

In an environment requiring moral leadership during

periods of

rapid change, turbulence and conflict, a successful

leader:

Has a Vision, a view of how things should be an din

ability to transfer Vision to reality

Experiences passion for what is being done and for what

might be.

Exercises uncompromising integrity, and a willingness

to speak the truth, doing so with power.

Is able to extend immediate forgiveness to self and to

others.

Pushes the envelope

Understands how to use the power of trend and flow in

order to achieve.

Learns early

Learns quickly

Learns lastingly

Is willing to fail

Creates choice

Avoids drama

Is able to change the meaning of events

Thrives on doing more with less

Is willing to stand the heat if it matters

Is willing to retreat if it does not matter

Is able and willing to exercise appropriate retaliation

Avoids stupidity

Successes and failures are Mission driven not ego

driven

Is intellectually curious

Asks questions and seeks answers

Understands the value and danger of data

Reads

Is able to apply an experimental methodology

Is disciplined

Has energy

Uses mistakes to test and define the environment

Continuously collects and integrates ideas and external

information.

Uses the power of order

Uses the power of surprise and novelty

Values elegant solutions

Sees opportunity and creativity within chaos

Prospects for an array of alternatives

Leads

Self corrects

Self directs

Self perturbates

Is comfortable with complexity

Is comfortable with ambiguity

Is comfortable letting go

Understands followership

Experiences responsibility for actions of the group and

the organization

Is able to subordinate self to a greater cause

Sees the greater picture

Takes responsibility

Perceives moral leadership as a political endeavor

Creates conceptual products

Lives both in the future and the present

Knows when to let go

Is open to information arriving from the future

In a leadership group:

Members independently develop and contribute conceptual

products. Each member helps expand and explore the

concepts which ultimately become group concepts.

Members independently identify questions, engage in

analysis and share observations and insights.

Members collect external ideas and intelligence that

form an information base of the leadership group.

Members respond and interact conceptually and

intellectually with each other.

Members find deeper conviction and courage for doing

the hard things.

- D. Lynch

 

 

In war there is no substitute for victory.

 

 

By profession I am a soldier and take pride in that

fact. But I am prouder--infinitely prouder--to be a

father. A soldier destroys in order to build; the

father only builds, never destroys. The one has the

potentiality of death; the other embodies creation and

life. And while the hordes of death are mighty, the

battalions of life are mightier still. It is my hope

that my son, when I am gone, will remember me not from

the battle but in the home repeating with him our

simple daily prayer, "Our Father Who Art in Heaven."

- Douglas Macarthur

 

 

"The healthy society, like the healthy body, is not the

one that has taken the most medicine."

Believing that constantly increasing levels of

regulation will keep the social environment of

vulnerable people safe and healthy is like believing

that constantly increasing doses of antibiotics will

keep a malnourished child healthy. It deals with only

the symptoms. In its potential for misdirecting our

attention from deeper causes, it can unwittingly do

long-term harm to the fabric of human relationships

through which the life of mankind really works.

- Dave Schwartz

 

 

Client relationships are typified by distorted patterns

of relationships and by approximations of friendships

with staff.

-Relationships are almost exclusively with staff and

care providers.

-Virtually all time and Relationships are staff

mediated or controlled.

-Few or no Relationships exist with handicapped

(including house mates) or non-handicapped peers.

-Clients have no "best friend"; few or no close friends

and few enduring relationships.

-Some continuing family relationships exist, but they

are not necessarily close.

-Staff readily perceived many relationship obstacles

but had more difficulty identifying facilitators.

-Staff/care provider "approximations" to friendship are

ambiguous, and not consciously considered.

-Staff often have conflicting roles - Realtor,

facilitator, mentor, employee, guard.

-Social Supports Research Project

David I. Specht, Ph.D.

Michael Nagy, Ph.D.

December 1986

 

 

The fundamental law of human beings is interdependence.

A person is a person through other persons.

- Bishop Desmond Tutu

 

 

Call, visit or write someone in need every day of your

life. Demonstrate your faith by passing it on to

someone else.

- Dennis Waitley

 

 

Happiness can not be traveled to, owned, earned, worn

or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of

living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.

- Dennis Waitley

 

 

"Nothing is more dangerous than an idea when it is the

only one you have."

- Emile Chartier

The new idea either finds a champion or dies...No

ordinary involvement with a new idea provides the

energy required to come with the indifference and

resistance that major technological change provokes....

Champions of new inventions display persistence and

courage of heroic quality.

- Edward Schon, M.I.T.

 

 

There is no meaning to life except the meaning man

gives his life by the unfolding of his powers.

- Erich Fromm

 

 

"It is a paradox that in our time of drastic rapid

change, when the future is in our midst devouring the

present before our eyes, we have never been less

certain about what is ahead of us."

- E. Hoffer

 

 

"The World breaks all of us

then some become strong at the broken places."

- Earnest Hemingway

A Farewell to Arms

 

 

He who angers you, conquers you.

- Elizabeth Kenny

 

 

Your brother needs your help, but you meanwhile mumble

your little prayers to God, pretending not to see your

brother's need.

- Enchiridion

 

 

"God has scattered among us....rare as the possessors

of genius...[people with mental retardation, with

blindness, with deafness,] in order to bind the rich to

the needy, the talented to the incapable, all men to

each other, in one tie of indissoluble solidarity."

- Edouard O. Sequin

1885

 

 

A Man's house should be open wide to the north, to the

south, to the east, to the west--so that the poor would

not be put to trouble in finding entrance.

- Ethics of the Fathers

 

 

Once upon a time it happened to my people, and now it

happens to all people. And suddenly I said to myself,

maybe the whole world, strangly, has turned Jewish.

Everybody lives now facing the unknown. We are all, in

a way, helpless.

- Elie Wiesel

Viewpoint ABC

Nov 20, 1983

 

 

The question is not that one man could be so evil but

that so many had not the courage to be good.

- Elie Wiesel

 

 

You shall not wrong a stranger or oppress him, for you

were strangers in the land of Egypt.

You shall not ill-treat any widow or orphan. If you do

mistreat them, I will heed their outcry as as they cry

out to Me, and My anger shall blaze forth and I will

put you to the sword, and your own wives shall become

widows and your children orphans.

The Torah/Exodus 23.20

 

But Moses said to the Lord, "Please, O Lord, I have

never been a man of words, either in times past or now

that you have spoken to Your servant; I am slow of

speech and slow of tongue." And the Lord said to him,

"Who gives man speech? Who makes him dumb or deaf,

seeing or blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go, and I

will be with you as you speak and will instruct you

what to say." But he said, "Please, O Lord, make

someone else Your agent."

 

 

 

The Lord become angry with

Moses, and He said "Their is you brother Aaron the

Levite, He, I knows, speaks readily. You shall speak to

him and put the words in his mouth - I will be with you

and with him as you speak, and tell both of you what to

do - and he shall speak for you to the people."

The Torah Exodus 4.10

 

Our curiosity will drive us...It is our nature to

strive to explore everything, alive and dead, present

and past and future. When once the technology exists

to read and write memories from one mind into another,

the age of mental exploration will begin in earnest.

Instead of admiring the beauties of nature from the

outside, we will look at nature directly through the

eyes of the elephant, the eagle and the whale. We will

be able, through the magic of science, to feel in our

own minds the pride of the peacock and the wrath of the

lion.

- Freeman J. Dyson

Infinite in all Directions

 

The test of our progress is not whether we add more to

the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we

provide enough for those who have too little.

- Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

Two men look out through the same bars: one sees the

mud, and one the stars.

- Frederich Langbridge, Pessimist and Optimist

 

 

The ultimate leader is one who is willing to develop

people to the point that they eventually surpass him or

her in knowledge and ability.

- Fred A. Manske, Jr.

 

 

Nothing on earth consumes a man more completely than

the passions of resentment.

- Friedrich Nietzsche

 

 

 

Let the lips of the poor be the trumpet of thy gift,

lest in seeking applause thou lose thy reward. Nothing

is more pleasing to God than an open hand and a closed

mouth.

- Francis Quarles (1592-1644)

Emblems

 

 

One act of charity will teach us more of the love of

God than a thousand sermons--one act of unselfishness,

of real self-denial, the putting forth of one loving

feeling to the outcast and "those who are of the way,"

will tell us more than whole volumes of the wisest

writers on theology.

- Frederick William Robertson

(1816-1853)

Sermons

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and

you help them to become what they are capable of being.

- Goethe

 

 

Free and fair discussion will ever be found the firmest

friend to truth.

- G. Campbell

 

 

To be attached to existence is to want human and

natural existence on earth to go on forever.

- George Kateb

Thinking About Human

Extinction p. 1

 

"To mean something in the world is the deepest hunger

of the soul, deeper than any bodily hunger or thirst."

- Gisela Knopka

 

 

Don't be humble; you're not that great

- Golda Meir

 

 

....We cannot plead that we must wait "until all the

facts are in, " because we know full well that all the

facts never will be in. Nor can we argue that "the

facts speak for themselves" and leave it "to the

politicians and the citizen to draw the practical

conclusions." The facts are much too complicated to

speak an intelligible language by themselves. They must

be organized for practical purposes, that is under

relevant valid premises.

 

 

And no one can do this more

adequately than we ourselves.

- Gunnar Myrdal

 

 

Good enough is the enemy of excellence.

- Anon

 

 

"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the

unreasonable one persiests in trying to adapt the world

to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the

unreasonable man."

- George Bernard Shaw

 

 

Lord you have created me,

Your unique child

With special talents and gifts

In my hands, mind, heart, and voice.

I need to find things to do

That give me peace

And my life meaning.

- Galen Smith

 

 

The story is not ended, it has not yet become history,

and the secret life it holds can break out tomorrow in

you or in me.

- Gershom Scholem

The Nazi Doctors

Medical Killing and the Psychology of Genocide

Robert J. Lifton

1986

 

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to

repeat it.

- George Santayana

 

 

I swear by Apollo Physician, by Asclepius, by Healtah,

by Panacea, and by all the gods and goddesses, making

them my witnesses, that I will carry out, according to

my ability and judgment, this oath and this indenture.

...I will use treatment to help the sick according to

my ability and judgment, but never with a view to

injury and wrongdoing. I will keep pure and holy both

my life and my art. In whatsoever houses I enter, I

will center to help the sick, and I will abstain from

all intentional wrongdoing and harm.

 

Now if I carry out this oath, and break it not, may I gain forever

reputation among all men for my life and for my art;

but if I transgress it and forswear myself, may the

opposite befall me.

- Oath of Hippocrates

 

 

DANCING ON WATER

Mothers who clutch the hands of your children,

what fable can I claim to assure

these are not drunken sealegs I walk on?

If there is an unseen line I follow

woozily down a winter street, this is

the only act of faith I know. You walk

distances around me, winging like hens

protectively over your broods. I take

these intricate steps only in the dance

I do. I balk gravity by timing

the one disjointed knee that will collapse

predictably as a jackknife. Something

is special in the way I walk, sealegs

to be sure but drunken only in what

blue waters will not boy me up. These rags

of kneebones for my fable, can we not

call it beautiful that I move over

such fathoms in this my clumsy fashion?

We will say I am dancing on water

in my faith. Ladies, I must dance or drown.

- Harold Bond

 

 

The tools of the mind become burdens when the

environment which made them necessary no longer exists.

- Henri Bergson

 

 

He who wins honor through his neighbor's shame will

never reach Paradise.

- Hebrew Proverb

 

 

When a needy person stands at your door God himself

stands at his side.

- Hebrew Proverb

 

 

Don't forget to be kind to strangers, for some who have

done this have entertained angels without realizing it!

- Hebrews 13:2,3

 

 

It is only as we develop others that we permanently

succeed.

- Harvey S. Firestone

 

 

Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more

intelligently.

- Henry Ford

 

 

Failure is the opportunity to begin again more

intelligently.

- Henry Ford

 

 

Knowledge--know each other. Goodness--love thy

brother.

- Hundu Proverb

 

 

In a half-measure to let incurable sick people steadily

contaminate the remaining healthy ones... The demand

that defective people be prevented from propagating

equally defective offspring is a demand of the clearest

reason and, if systematically executed, represents the

most humane act of mankind. It will spare millions of

unfortunates undeserved sufferings and, consequently,

will lead to a rising improvement of health as a whole.

The stronger must dominate and not blend with the

weaker, thus sacrificing his own greatness. Only the

born weakling can view this as cruel, but he, after

all, is only a weak and limited man.

It was and it is Jews who bring the Negroes into the

Rhineland, always with the same secret thought and

clear aim of ruining the hated white race by the

necessarily resulting bastardization, throwing it down

from its cultural and political height.

The fokish state must make up for what everyone else

today has neglected in this field. It must set race in

the center of all life. It must take care to keep it

pure... It must see to it that only the healthy beget

children. That there is only one disgrace: despite

one's own sickness and deficiencies, to bring children

into the world... It must put the most modern medical

means in the service of this knowledge. It must declare

unfit for propagation all who are in any way visibly

sick or who have inherited a disease and put this into

actual practice.

Those who are physically and mentally unhealthy and

unworthy must not perpetuate their suffering in the

body of their children.

- Adolf Hitler

Mein Kampf

 

The state organism...is a whole with its own laws and

rights, much like one self-contained human

organism...which, in the interest of the welfare of the

whole, also--as we doctors know--abandons and rejects

parts or particles that have become worthless or

dangerous.

- Adolf Hitler

The Nazi Doctors

 

The volkisch state must see to it that only the healthy

beget children...Here the state must act as the

guardian of a millennial future...It must put the most

modern medical means in the service of this knowledge.

It must declare unfit for propagation all who are in

any way visibly sick or who have inherited a disease

and can therefore pass it on.

- Adolf Hitler

The Nazi Doctors

 

 

Many persons have the wrong idea of what constitutes

true happiness. It is not attained through

self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy

purpose.

- Helen Keller

 

 

"A home is not a mere transient shelter; its essence

lies in its permanence...in its quality for

representing in all its details, the personalities of

the people who live in it."

- H. L. Mencken

 

 

Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain.

An occasional glance toward the summit keeps the goal

in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed

from each new vantage point. Climb slowly, steadily,

enjoying each passing moment, and the view from the

summit will serve as a fitting climax for the journey.

--Harold V. Melchert

 

All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous

unpremeditated act without benefit of experience.

--Henry Miller

 

 

There's always an easy solution to every human problem

- neat, plausible, and wrong.

-H. L. Menkin

 

 

AN OLD STORY

There is an old story of a poor and broken fugitive

who was taken in by the people of a small village and

given a place to hide. Eventually, however, enemy

soldiers came and demanded to be told where the man

was hiding. When the people hesitated to tell, the

soldiers threatened to destroy the village and kill

every man, woman, and child by dawn if the man they

sought was not turned over to them. Frightened, the

people turned to their leader for guidance.

Torn between deserting his people and betraying the

young man, the leader of the village went to his room

and began reading his Bible in hope of finding an

answer before dawn. He read all night, and finally,

just before sunrise, he came to the words, "It is

better for one man to die for the people, than for the

whole nation to be destroyed".

Trembling, the leader walked outside and told the

soldiers where to find the man. As the soldiers took

the fugitive away to be executed, the people in the

village celebrated because their lives had been spared.

The leader, however, did not celebrate with them.

Instead he went to his room, smitten with a deep

heaviness. In the evening an angel appeared to him and

asked "What have you done?" The leader replied slowly,

"I betrayed the fugitive." "But didn't you know," said

the angel, "that the fugitive you betrayed is the

Messiah?" "No! No! No!!" groaned the leader, "I didn't

know, how could I have known?" The angel spoke: "If

you had set down your Bible and gone to the fugitive

and looked into his eyes you would have Known!"

 

 

I had to realize that I had nothing to be ashamed

of...I began to see that it's not what you've lost that

counts, but what you have left.

Harold Russel

Victory In My Hands

The Disabled & their Parents

Leo Buscaglia Ph.D.

1983

 

 

When God created us, He made us in His own image, in

the likeness of the divine. Both male and female He

created; He blessed them, and at the time of their

creation He called them Human.

* * *

Therefore was a single human being created: to teach

you that to destroy a single human soul is equivalent

to destroying an entire world; and to sustain a single

human soul is equivalent to sustaining an entire world.

* * *

And a single human being was created for the sake of

peace, that none might say: My lineage is greater than

yours!

 

THE WHOLENESS OF THE FAMILY OF GOD

In John 15, Christ tells us "love one another as I

have loved you". In this commandment Christ did not

intend for us to just love those people we find it easy

to love. He was not telling us to love only those who

look, walk, talk, and think like us, or those who

share a common perspective or heritage. Christ meant

for us to love all people, doing so unconditionally. In

Matthew 25 Christ tells us "When you did it to the

least of these my brothers you were doing it to

me...and When you refused to help the least of these my

brothers, you were refusing help to me."

Within the life of our church community, there is a

compelling obligation to extend Christ's love to all,

particularly those who as a result of mental or

physical disability are typically cast into lives of

marginalization, oppression, isolation, poverty and

exclusion. A church community can not live Christ's

love with out being open to all, actively reaching out,

welcoming and embracing all members of the human

community.

Within the life of our church community, it is

important that persons with disabilities not be treated

as poor unfortunates to only be served. Instead it is

imperative that they be encouraged to become fully

committed, participating, contributing, integral

members of the Body of Christ and the church community.

The gifts of these brother and sisters must not be

ignored. Their participation is essential for the

church to fulfill its Christian mission and to

experience unity in a celebration of the diversity and

wholeness of God's creation.

Therefore, my beloved, be steadfast, immovable, always

excelling in the work of the Lord, because you know

that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.

- I Corinthians 15:58

 

 

He raises up the poor from the dust; he lifts the needy

from the ash heap, to make them sit with princes and

inherit a seat of honor. For the pillars of the earth

are the LORD'S, and on them he has set the world.

- 1 Samuel 2:8

 

If not now - when?

If not you - who?

 

 

If you are going to shoot at an elephant

be sure you kill it!

 

 

THE SERVANT

He had no form or comeliness that we should look at

him, and no beauty that we should desire him. He was

despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows...

and as one from whom men hide their faces he was

despised, and we esteemed him not.

- Isa 53:2,3

 

 

"if you pour yourself out for the hungry

and satisfy the desire of the afflicted

then shall your light rise in the darkness

and your gloom be as the noonday

and the Lord will guide you continually

and you shall be like a watered garden

like a spring of water

whose waters fail not."

- Isaiah 58

 

 

 

In happiness and suffering, in joy and grief, we should

regard all creatures as we regard our own self, and

should therefore refrain from inflicting upon others

such injury as would appear undesirable to us if

inflicted upon ourselves.

- Jain Golden Rule

Yogashastra 2:20

 

 

The only limits are, as always, those of vision.

- James Broughton

 

 

The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all

possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true.

- James Branch Cabell

Silver Stallion

 

IT'S ABOUT TIME

There's a full noon over India and Ghandi lives again.

Who's to say you have to lose for someone else to win.

In the eyes of all the people, the look is much the same.

For the first is just the last one when you play a deadly game.

It's about time we realize it.. we're all in this together.

It;s about time we find out it's... all of us or none.

It's about time we recognize it... these changes in the weather.

It's about time, it's about changes and it's about time.

There's a light in the Vatican window for all the world to see.

And a voice cries in the wilderness and sometimes he speaks for me.

I suppose I love him most of all when he kneels to kiss the land.

With his lips upon our mothers breasts, he makes his strongest stand.

It's about time we start to see it...the earth is our only home.

It's about time we start to face it...we can't make it here all alone.

It's about time we start to listen to the voices in the wind.

It's about time, and it's about changes and it's about time.

There's a man who is my brother, I just don't know his name.

But I know his home and family because I know we feel the same.

And it hurts me when he's hungry and when his children cry.

I too am a (parent) and that little one is mine.

It's about time we begin it.. to turn the world around.

It's about time we start to make it...the dream we've always known.

It's about time we start to live it...(the global family).

It's about time, it's about changes and it's about time.

It's about peace, and it's about plenty and it's about time.

 

 

It's about you and me together and it's about time.

- John Denver

 

 

Before God, there is neither Greek nor barbarian,

neither rich nor poor, and the slave is as good as the

master, for by birth all men are free; they are

citizens of the universal commonwealth which embraces

all the world, brethren of one family, and children of

God.

- John Emerich Edward Dalbert Action

The History of Freedom in Antiquity

 

Who has not served cannot command.

- John Florio

 

 

 

Of those to whom much is given, much is required.

- John F. Kennedy

 

 

Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.

- John F. Kennedy

 

 

The energy, the faith, the devotion which we bring to

this endeavor will light our country and all who serve

it, and the glow from that fire can truly light the

world.

- John F. Kennedy

 

Those who believe in our ability do more than stimulate

us. They create for us an atmosphere in which it

becomes easier to succeed.

- John H. Spalding

 

 

To love our neighbor as ourself is such a fundamental

truth for regulating human society, that by that alone

one might determine all the cases in social morality.

- John Locke

The Reasonableness of

Christianity

 

When we have done our best, we should wait the result

in peace.

- John Lubbock

 

 

To do something, however small, to make others happier

and better is the highest ambition, the most elevating

hope, which can inspire a human being.

- John Lubbock

 

 

 

"Remember what Jesus said in John Chapter 15? "This is

my commandment, that you love one another, as I have

loved you. A man can have no greater love than this,

that he lay down his life for his friend." That's the

part we always hear. But we don't hear the next three

lines. "You are my friends if you do what I command

you. I shall not call you servants anymore, because a

servant does not know this master's business. I call

you friends because I have made known to you everything

I have learned from my Father." This says to me, that

to be a servant is to be a person who has not reached

the Christian ideal, which is to be a friend-a member

of a community of friends. That's what Jesus was

saying. The Gospel says that our mission is not to be

servants. When we have a Christian understanding of

that-then I doubt that you can "serve" people. A

Christian has to try to be a friend-and being a friend

is about fairness.

- From: Things go better With Neighbors

Mary O'Connell's interview of John McKnight.

 

 

"The surest indication of the experience of community

is the explicit common knowledge of tragedy, death, and

suffering. The managed, ordered, technical vision

embodied in professional and institutional systems

leaves no space for tragedy; they are basically methods

of production. Indeed, they are designed to deny the

central dilemmas of life."

- John McKnight

 

 

COMMUNITY

1. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY THE INDIVIDUAL PERSON, IN RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER PERSON, IS AT THE CENTER OF ITS ESSENCE.

2. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY THERE IS QUICK RESPONSE TO HUMAN NEEDS, LITERALLY WITHIN MINUTES, WITH ONE PERSON RESPONDING TO ANOTHER IN TIMES OF NEED.

3. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY PEOPLE THRIVE ON STORIES ABOUT GROWTH, CHALLENGE AND CHANGES IN PEOPLE'S LIVES.

4. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY PEOPLE DEPEND ON CELEBRATION AND PERSONAL ACCOMPLISHMENTS, ACHIEVED IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH EACH OTHER.

5. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS ARE INFORMAL AND PERSONAL.

6. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY, WHO WE ARE IS DEFINED BY WHO WE ARE AS PEOPLE, INSTEAD OF BY TITLES AND ORGANIZATIONAL CHARTS.

7. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY EFFORTS ARE BASED ON CAPACITIES OF WHAT PEOPLE CAN DO, CAN GIVE, CAN LEARN, INSTEAD OF THEIR DEFICIENCIES WHICH FOCUS ON WHAT PEOPLE CAN'T DO, CAN'T GIVE, CAN'T LEARN.

8. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY, REGARDLESS OF ABILITY OR DISABILITY, ALL MEMBERS ARE CONTRIBUTING CITIZENS AND NONE ARE CLIENTS OR CONSUMERS

9. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY DECISIONS ARE MADE BY CONSENT, NOT CONTROL. EMPHASIS IS ON CONSENSUS INSTEAD OF SIMPLY "GETTING THINGS DONE" THROUGH THE EXERCISE OF AUTHORITY.

10. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY THERE IS REAL CARING, THE WILLINGNESS TO WALK IN THE LIFE OF ANOTHER, SHARING AND EMBRACING EACH OTHERS TRAGEDY, SUFFERING AND JOYS.

12. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY WE SEE THE GIFTS OF ALL PEOPLE, NOT THEIR NEEDS AS A COLLECTION OF CHORES TO BE WORKED ON.

13. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY WE WORK WITH PEOPLE NOT ON PEOPLE.

14. WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY ALL MEMBERS, REGARDLESS OF ABILITY OR DISABILITY, ARE WELCOMED AS FULL VALUED CONTRIBUTING MEMBERS.

 

 

"I feel a queer stirring in me, and it is as though my

heart first bursts the bars of this cell, and then

travels with great lightness and freedom down the

corridor and into each stinking cell, acknowledging:

Yes, we are all of us one flesh."

- Jane Meyerding

 

 

This is my commandment, that you love one another as I

have loved you. Greater love has no man than this,

that a man lay down his life for his friends.

- John 15:12,13

 

 

Becoming a person...involves the sacrifice of some

experience in order to experience more deeply the

values which are connected with and which promote one's

own destiny.

- John Powell, s.j.

 

 

Our Mission

"To provide a home down the street for every person

with a developmental disability from our corner of the

world who is living in an institution or who is at risk

of living in one."

- Jerry Provencal

 

 

When love and skill work together, expect a

masterpiece.

- John Ruskin

 

 

You will say, "Charity is greater than justice." Yes,

it is greater: it is the summit of justice--it is the

temple of which justice is the foundation. But you

can't have the top without the bottom; you cannot build

upon charity. You must build upon justice, for this

main reason, that you have not at first charity to

build with. It is the last reward of good work.

- John Ruskin (1819-1900)

Fors Clavigera

 

 

 

i fear my helplessness

my hollows

my poverty

you remind me that i too must die

and so i turn my back

returning to my home

escaping the fundamental reality

of my own existence,

of my own poverty

and yours, my brother......

i refuse to love............

- Jean Vanier

Tears of Silence

 

 

I who am dejected

let go that inner hold...........

sink down.....down..............

friends drift downstream

laughing.........

i remain.....lying on my bed

smoking

drinking

or sitting.........sitting

the radio playing on and on and on

waiting

waiting

but waiting for

what......

- Jean Vanier

Tears of Silence

 

 

"I'm happy that L'Arch in Trosly has grown. Each day

rings the challenge of trying to live community with a

large number of people, of creating structures which

allow for the greatest possible participation and give

each person the chance to take responsibility and

initiatives while maintaining a unity of spirit"

- Jean Vanier

Community & Growth

 

 

In some mysterious way

the quality of my presence, my look

brings to you life

or death

- Jean Vanier

Tears of Silence

 

 

"That is the meaning of life. Life reproduces itself.

Growth means the appearance of flowers and fruit, which

carry the seeds of new life."

- Jean Vanier

Community & Growth

 

 

.....the miserable man is still there

waiting...waiting....waiting for what

lying in his prison...........

lying in his dung..............

waiting

yet

not waiting

for he has lost hope

we only wait when there is hope

where there is not hope.......we lie.....dying

not living

sad unto death

yet he waits

waiting.............yet not waiting

- Jean Vanier

Tears of Silence

 

 

"There is mystery in the heart of the poor. Jesus says

that everything we do for the hungry, the thirsty, the

naked, the sick, the prisoner or the stranger, we do

for him: "All that you do for the least of my

brothers, you do for me." The poor in their total

insecurity, their anguish and their destitution,

identify with Jesus. Hidden in their radical poverty,

in their obvious wounds, is the mystery of the presence

of God."

- Jean Vanier

Community & Growth

 

 

but

we can be together

and not meet

we can live in the same house day after day

sit at the same table

kneel at the same pew

read the same books

but never meet

we can kiss

gestures of love

apparent tenderness

but never meet

a meeting is a strange and wonderful thing

presence one person to another

present one to another

life flowing one to another

- Jean Vanier

Tears of Silence

 

 

The result of prosperity based on injustice is anxiety.

The poor need justice, and the rich need restored

sight.... That which commands out time, energy and

thoughts is what we really worship... "Being concerned

is seeing something awful happening to somebody and

feeling, "Hey, that's really too bad". Having

compassion is seeing the same thing and saying "I just

can't let that happen to my brother."... concern comes

from a recognition of a problem. Compassion comes out

of a feeling of relationship ... proximity to poor

people is crucial to our capacity for compassion...

When affluent people find genuine friendships among the

poor, some revolutionary changes in consciousness can

begin to take place... If we put ourselves in daily

relationship to poor people we will understand more

than oppression; we will begin to understand the very

sufferings of Christ ... God identifies with the poor,

not because they are more noble but because they are

more vulnerable.

- Jim Wallis

 

 

 

"The problem is not that mental retardation CANNOT be

cured; the problem is that life CANNOT be cured...We

need to remember that community, like the other things

we have been tempted to romanticize, CANNOT be judged

by whether it 'fixes' people or situations; like

[de-institutionalization] and like associations and

like friends, and maybe like life, community is

worthwhile for other reasons.

So if community isn't utopia and won't fix people and

won't resolve people's situation in life, then what is

it good for? To paraphrase McKnight, it's the only

uncontrolled space, the only place you can sing

together and the only place you can die together, the

only place you can never abolish suffering, and the

only place you can never abolish joy."

- Jack Yates

"I strive to discover how to signal my companions to

say in time a single word, a password, like

conspirators: Let us unite, let us hold each other

tightly, let us merge our souls, let us create for

Earth a brain...and a heart,..."

- Kazantizakis

 

 

 

As thou deemest thyself so deem others. Then shalt

thou become a partner in heaven.

- KABIR (1450-1518)

The Adi Granth

 

Dear Master who rules with such a calm hand,

I pray that you would give me eyes to see that the true

battle is spiritual not physical.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but

against the rulers, against the authorities, against

the power of this dark world and against the spiritual

forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Help me to realize that no matter how violent their

opposition, people are not the enemy. They are

prisoners of the enemy. Help me to realize that you

died to free those prisoners. And in that knowledge

give me the courage, I pray, to penetrate their shores

so they might be brought out of thier tombs, delivered

of their demons, dressed in their right mind, and given

the privilege to sit at you feet.

 

Help me to boldly take a beachhead of Satan for the

kingdom of God. To banish his forces. And to be brave

in the knowledge that though they are legion, you are

Lord.

Help me to realize that the true battleground is the

human heart. It is over this territory that the forces

of good and evil draw their swords.

Knowing that, Lord on this day, this hour, I surrender

my heart to you-my hopes, my fears, my dreams, my

desires, my ambitions, my anxieties, my love and my

loyalty.

May it be one more victory for the kingdom of God. And

one less battle you have to fight...

- Ken Gire

Learning to Love

 

It must be the duty of racial hygiene to be attentive

to a more severe elimination of morally inferior human

beings than is the case today....We should literally

replace all factors responsible for selection in a

natural and free life....In prehistoric times of

humanity, selection for endurance, heroism, social

usefulness, etc., was made solely by hostile outside

factors, This role must be assumed by a human

organization; otherwise, humanity will, for lack of

selective factors, be annihilated by the degenerative

phenomenon that accompany domestication.

- Konrad Lorenz (1940)

 

 

Deal not unjustly with others, and ye shall not be

dealt with unjustly.

- The Koran

 

 

No one of you is a believer until he desires for his

brother that which he desires for himself.

- The Koran

Take tight hold of Allah's ropes all together. And do

no part in sects.

- The Koran

 

 

Whatever good you do for others, you send it before

your own souls and shall find it with Allah who sees

all you do.

- The Koran

 

 

Even when a bird walks

We see that it has wings.

-Lemoine

 

 

The finest expression of respect is not praise or

status, but a willingness to talk openly to a person.

- Less Bittle

 

 

To lose you because of self-defeating ideas is to die....

Your greatest responsibility is to become everything

you are, not only for your benefit, but for mine.

- Leo Busgaglia

 

 

You said that I was transparent and easily forgotten

but why then did you try to use my lifetime to prove to

yourself what you are?

Michelle

But I am Present

The Disabled & their Parents

Leo Buscaglia Ph.D.

1983

 

 

"Would you tell me please, which way I ought to go from

here?" "That depends a good deal on where you want to

go" said Alice

"Then it doesn't matter which way you go." said the Cat.

"So long as I get somewhere, "Alice added in

explanation "Oh you're sure to do that, said the Cat:

if only you walk long enough."

- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

 

And you shall not strip your vineyard bare, neither

shall you gather the fallen grapes of your vineyard;

you shall leave them for the poor and for the

sojourner: I am the LORD your God.

- The Torah/Leviticus 19.10

 

 

Like small creeks that grow into mighty rivers, the

dreams of leaders eventually shape the course of

history.

 

 

Lewis Kamass, a rabbinical student, wrote this prayer

for the dedication of a Torah that survived the

Holocaust. May it be our prayer, too.

For the times when we saw another's anguish,

But we could not bear the burden;

For the times when we gazed upon loneliness and fear,

And we withdrew our hands;

For the times when all we offered was the callousness

of indifference,

We ask your forgiveness.

And with this hope for forgiveness, we dare to hope for

strength in days ahead -- that indifference may turn to

caring, and caring bring forth deed.

- Lewis Kamass

 

 

Comments after Los Alomos:

Seldom if ever has a war ended leaving the victors with

such a sense of uncertainty and fear, with such a

realization that the future is obscure and that

survival is not assured.

- Edward R. Murrow p. 59

 

 

Some fool in a laboratory might blow up the universe

unawares. - Ernest Rutherford p. 59

 

 

You could tell at once they had a strange experience.

You could see it on their faces. I saw that something

very grave and strong had happened in their whole

outlook on the future. - Stanislow Ulam p. 61

What is the only provocation that could bring about the

use of nuclear weapons? Nuclear weapons. What is the

priority target for nuclear weapons? Nuclear weapons.

What is the only established defense against nuclear

weapons? Nuclear weapons. How do we prevent the use of

nuclear weapons? By threatening to use nuclear weapons.

And we can't get rid of nuclear weapons, because of

nuclear weapons. - Martin Amis p. 70

 

There is no such thing as security, and the work should

be stricken from our dictionary.- James Forrestal p. 74

No Emperor or fiend from the past - not Caesar, not

Alexander the Great, not Attila the Hun - ever claimed

the sovereign right to determine the life and future of

the entire universe. Yet that power is now claimed by

every graduate engineer who steps into a nuclear

weapons laboratory. - E. L. Doctorow p. 77

It is also possible that if the first man could have

been present at the moment of Creation when God said,

"Let there be light," he might have seen something very

similar to what we have seen. - William Laurence p. 82

The great Golem we have made against our enemies is our

culture, our bomb culture - its logic, its faith, its

vision. - E. L. Doctorow p. 87

 

 

You see what happened to me - what happened to the reat

of us, is we started for a good reason, then you're

working very hard to accomplish something, and it's

pleasure, it's excitement. And you just stop thinking,

you know, you stop. - Richard Feyman p. 99

It's a terrible thing but we have to do it.

- Hans Bethe p. 107

 

 

The Bomb for Bohr and Oppenheimer was a weapon of death

the might also end war and redeem mankind.

- Richard Rhodes p. 111

These guys take a lot of satisfaction in knowing

they're going to be consulted over whether civilization

will be destroyed or not.... It's hubris, or arrogance,

which says, "We are really bright guys and we can keep

the country from doing ridiculous things." ... And

they're totally unaware that they're just being used by

some little, puddin' - headed guy in the Pentagon.

- A critic of Jason p. 133

 

 

The easiest message to get through ... is "go."

- Thomas Powers p. 156

 

 

The nuclear threshold is a place where war by the rules

ends... For beyond that threshold there are no rules.

- Thomas B. Allen p. 173

 

 

The button is set so finely it could push itself.

- Samuel H. Day p. 183

 

 

The dynamic of the nuclear arms race is deeply rooted

in the structure of the modern world.

- Lester R. Kurtz p. 186

 

 

What in the name of God is strategic superiority?

- Henery Kissinger

 

 

The effects could well be called unprecedented,

magnificent, beautiful, stupendous and terrifying. No

man - made phenomenon of such tremendous power had ever

occurred before... Thirty seconds after the explosion

come, first, the air blast pressing hard against the

people and things, to be followed almost immediately by

the strong, sustained, awesome roar which warned of

doomsday and made us feel that we puny things were

blasphemous to dare tamper with the forces heretofore

reserved to The Almighty. Words are inadequate tools

for the job of acquainting those not present with the

physical, mental, land psychological effects. It had to

be witnessed to be realized.

- Brigadier General Thomas Farrell

Reporting to President Truman

 

 

On witnessing the detonation: "The long hairs have let

it get away from them!"

- Brigadier General Thomas Farrell

 

 

 

And the Lord said

Love your neighbor

And I said "Who me?"

And the Lord said yes you.

And I said

"I'm really very busy

And besides I have my hands full

just taking care of my own."

And the Lord said

"Love your neighbor, not only the good

one but the bad one too."

And I said "Are you kidding? I don't want to!"

And the Lord said "I didn't ask if you wanted to".

And I said "Lord, but I don't like him, He's mean, and,

I can't trust him."

"He'll make a fool of me. And other people don't like him either."

And the Lord said "My commandment is to Love your neighbor".

And I said "Do I have to?"

And the Lord said "Yes, if you love me."

And I said "Lord, It will be risky I might get

hurt, I can't do it by myself."

The Lord said "Where do you think I will be?"

And I said "Lord you never give up do you?"

And the Lord said "No, I never give up."

And I said "Don't you ever get tired?"

And the Lord said "Yes, I get very tired."

And I said "Then why?"

And the Lord said "Because I love you."

And I said "Lord I love you too."

 

 

And the Lord said "You can only really love me if you

love one another as I love each one of you."

adapted from an original

work by Lois Rensberger

 

 

"I've got to follow them, for I am their leader."

- Ledru Rollin

 

 

But when you give a feast, invite the poor, the maimed,

the lame, the blind, and you will be blessed, because

they cannot repay you. You will be repaid at the

resurrection of the just."

- Luke 14:13

 

 

In joy and sorrow, in pleasure and pain, one should act

towards others as one would have them act toward

oneself.

- The Mahabharata

 

 

This is the sum of true righteousness--treat others as

thou would'st thyself be treated. Do nothing to thy

neighbor which hereafter thou would'st not have thy

neighbor do to thee, in causing pleasure or in giving

pain, in doing good, or injury to others.

- The Mahabharata

 

 

But when I, the Messiah, shall come in my glory, and

all the angels with me, then I shall sit upon my throne

of glory, And all the nations shall be gathered before

me. And I will separate the people as a shepherd

separates the sheep from the goats, and place the sheep

at my right hand, and the goats at my left.

Then I, the King, shall say to those at my right,

"Come, blessed of my Father, into the Kingdom prepared

for you from the founding of the world For I was hungry

and you fed me; I was thirst and you gave me water; I

was a stranger and you invited me into your homes;

naked and you clothed me; sick and in prison, and you

visited me.

Then these righteous ones will reply, "Sir when did we

ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirst and give

you anything to drink? Or a stranger, and help you? Or

naked, and clothe you? When did we ever see you sick or

in prison, and visit you?

And I, the King, will tell them, "When you did it to

these my brothers you were doing it to me!" Then I will

turn to those on my left and say "Away with you, you

cursed ones, into the eternal fire prepared for the

devil and his demons. For I was hungry and you wouldn't

feed me: thirsty, and you wouldn't give me anything to

drink; a stranger, and you refused me hospitality;

naked, and you wouldn't clothe me; sick, and in prison,

and you didn't visit me."

Then they will reply, "Lord, when did we ever see you

hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in

prison, and not help you?"

And I will answer, "When you refused to help the least

of these my brothers, you were refusing help to me."

And they shall go away into eternal punishment; but the

righteous into everlasting life."

- Matthew 25:31-46

 

 

KEYSTONE RESIDENCE MISSION STATEMENT

Keystone Residence is a change agent, creating

opportunities that encourage growth and meaningful life

choices while helping persons with disabilities find:

home, friends, family, work and presence in their

communities.

 

 

"i do not want to be reborn

but if that should happen

i would like to find myself amongst the untouchables

in order to share their affliction,

their suffering

and the insults they are subject to.

in this way,

perhaps i would have the chance

to liberate them and myself

from this miserable condition."

- Gandhi

 

 

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment.

Full effort is full victory.

- Mohandas Gandhi

 

 

The only tyrant I accept in this world is the still voice within.

- Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the

attribute of the strong.

- Mahatma Gandhi

There is no god higher than truth.

- Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

No culture can live if it attempts to be exclusive.

 

 

Unity to be real must stand the severest strain without breaking.

- Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

The golden rule of conduct is mutual toleration, seeing

that we will never all think alike and that we shall

always see Truth in fragments and from different angles

of vision.

- Mohandas K. Gandhi (1869-1948) Harijan

 

Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err.

- Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

The nations of the world today resemble a pack of

mountaineers tied together by climbing rope. They can

either climb on together to the mountain peak or fall

together into an abyss. This new political outlook

calls for the recognition of one simple axiom: security

is indivisible. It is either equal security for all, or

none at all.

- Mikail Gorbachev

 

"Love your neighbor as yourself: is the great principle

of the Torah.

- The Midrash

 

 

"As we position ourselves to conceivably entrust the

lives of millions of people to a life in 'community,'

it is useful to ask if we have truly squared ourselves

to a view of 'community' that contains human beings

that are less than ideal."

- Michael Kendrick

 

I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love

will have the final word in reality.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up

and live out the true meaning of this creed; We hold

these truths to be self evident: that all men are

created equal...

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

The true neighbor will risk his position, his prestige,

and even his life for the welfare of others. In

dangerous valleys and hazardous pathways, he will lift

some bruised and beaten brother to a higher and more

noble life.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands

in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he

stands at times of challenge and controversy.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

We must use time creatively--and forever realize that

this time is always hope to do great things.

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

When we let freedom ring, when we let it ring from

every village and every hamlet, from every state and

every city, we will be able to speed up that day when

all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews

and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able

to join hands and sing in the words of that old Negro

spiritual, "Free at last! Free at last! Thank God

Almighty, we are free at last!"

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

 

All God's critters got a place in the choir,

Some sing low, some sing higher,

Some sing out loud on the telephone wires,

And some just clap their hands.

- Margaret Mantle

Some Just Clap Their Hands

 

BEYOND PROGRAMS: A PARABLE

Revised and edited from an original work

by Michael McCarthy

In the beginning, there were placements, and lo we were

happy for placements were not mandated for adults who

happened to experience severe disabilities,

And so, we said, this is good.

And placements multiplied and filled the our

communities.

 

And then, we said, let us call these persons "clients"

and make programs, which focus on serving their needs.

And "clients" were defined and labeled, and grouped

according to their labels and assigned to programs

based on their labels.

And the professionals created services for each label,

and state agencies developed unit costs for each

service.

And programs prospered and multiplied, and we said,

this is very good.

And many of the professionals began to earn a fine

living in the rendering of service to their "clients."

And programs multiplied, and we said, this is very,

very good.

And as programs continued to multiply, a cry arose:

"Let us evaluate our programs to see how good they

really are."

And program evaluation systems, state regulations,

quality assurance committees, compliance plans, and

other program measures were created.

And they multiplied and filled volumes.

And in those times, a prophet arose who was also a

"client", and said to us:

"I don't want to be a "client",

I want to be a person.

I don't want a label,

I want a name.

I don't want services,

I want support and help.

I don't want a residential placement.

I want a home.

I don't want a day program.

I want work that is meaningful and productive.

I don't want to be "programmed" my whole life;

I don't want to be controlled.

I want freedom.

I want to learn to do the things that I like, and to

go places I want, when I want.

I want to have fun and to enjoy life

I want to have friends.

I want to love and be loved.

I want a family.

I want to contribute.

I want to live where I want and with whom I want.

I want the same opportunities as all of you.

I want to be happy

I want freedom."

And there was a long silence.

And lo, we realized that we must look beyond our

programs, our regulations and our labels.

But we were deeply troubled, and asked:

"What have we done? How can we do what the Prophet

asks? Would not each person need their own unique

program and system of support based on his own

individual measure of its quality."

And the prophet replied:

"Even as you say, so should it be done-

just as you have done for yourselves."

 

 

"Our age of anxiety is, in great part, the result of

trying to do today's job with yesterday's tools - with

yesterday's concepts."

- M. McLuhan

 

 

Every good deed is charity, and it is a good deed that

thou meet thy brother with a cheerful countenance and

that thou pour water from thy bucket into the vessel of

thy brother.

- Mohammed(570-632)

The Hadith

 

 

More than anything else followers want to believe that

their leaders are ethical and honest. They want to

say, "Someday I want to be like him or her."

- Anon

 

 

MISSION STATEMENT

The Mission of the Otis Elevator Company is to move

people and material vertically and horizontally over

relatively short distances.

 

Who are these people?

They are the hostages we surrendered long

ago to ransom a future;

They are a clear reflection and a continuous

confirmation of the very best part of ourselves;

They are that divine dividend, the long promised

blessing reserved for those among us who have

never seen but have always believed;

They are a promise kept, a hope fulfilled,

a dream realized;

They are a manifestation of the profound love that

governs the universe, a love perpetually nourished

by the realization of itself, and a love

surrendered over and over again in joy and

gratitude at the command of the omnipotent spirit.

They are you and me!

- Martin Sheen

 

 

If you are preoccupied with people who are talking

about the poor, you scarcely have time to talk to the

poor. Some people talk about hunger, but they didn't

come and say, "Mother, here is five rupees. Buy food

for these people." But they can give a most beautiful

lecture on hunger. I had the most extraordinary

experience once in Bombay. There was a big conference

about hunger. I was supposed to go to that meeting and

I lost the way. Suddenly I come to that place, and

right in front of the door to where hundreds of people

were talking about food and hunger, I found a dying

man.

I took him out and I took him home.

He died there.

He died of hunger.

 

 

 

And the people inside were talking about how in fifteen

years we will have so much food, so much this, so much

that, and that man died.

See the difference?

- Mother Teresa

Words to Love By

 

 

I never look at the masses as my responsibility.

I look at the individual. I can love only one person at

a time. I can feed only one person at a time.

Just one, one, one.

You get closer to Christ by coming closer to each

other. As Jesus said, "Whatever you do to the least of

my brethren, you do to me."

So you begin.......I begin.

maybe if I didn't pick up that one person I wouldn't

have picked up 42,000.

The whole work is only a drop in the ocean. But if I

didn't put the drop in, the ocean would be one drop

less.

Same thing for you

same thing in your family

same thing in the church where you go

just begin...one, one, one.

- Mother Teresa

Words to Love By

 


"We make our friends; we make our enemies; but God

makes our next door neighbor.... We have to love our

neighbor because he is 'there'...He is the sample of

humanity which is actually given us. Precisely because

he may be anybody he is everybody. He is a symbol

because he is an accident."

- Mother Teresa

 

 

We pray through our work by doing it with Jesus, for

Jesus, to Jesus. That helps us put our whole heart and

soul into doing it. The dying, the crippled, the

mentally ill, the unwanted, the unloved - they are

Jesus in disguise.

- Mother Teresa

 

 

We are supposed to preach without preaching not by

words, but by our example, by our actions. All works of

love are works of peace.

- Mother Teresa

Words to Love By

 

 

"The person who has had the bull by the tail once has

learned 60 or 70 times as much as a person who hasn't."

- Mark Twain

 

"It is better to keep your mouth shut and appear stupid

than to open it and prove it."

- Mark Twain

 

If the choice is murder or suicide- commit murder and

keep your options open.

 

 

"We have art in order not

to die of the truth."

- Nietzche

 

 

Whoever fights monsters should see to it that

in the process he does not become a monster.

And when you look into the abyss,

the abyss also looks into you.

- Nietzsche

 

 

The syringe belongs in the hands of a physician.

- Nazi "Euthanasia" Motto

The Nazi Doctors

 

 

Here is a simple but powerful rule: Always give people

more than they expect to get.

- Nelson Boswell

 

 

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the

children of your soul; the blue prints of your ultimate

achievements.

- Napoleon Hill

 

Nothing binds us one to another like a promise kept.

Nothing divides us like a promise broken.

 

 

The key to success is holding in your conscious mind

what you want to acheive and then striving in

everything you do to make the image reality.

- Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

 

 

"Why is it that when a person speaks to God it's

prayer, but when God speaks to a person it's

schizophrenia?

- Old Joke

 

 

The noblest service comes from nameless hands. And the

best servant does his work unseen.

- Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

 

The first cry form my heart when I knew she would never

be anything but a child, was the age old cry that we

all make before inevitable sorrow: "Why must this

happen to me?" To this there could be no answer and

there was none.

Pearl Buck

The Child Who Never Grew

The Disabled & their Parents,

Leo Buscaglia Ph.D.1983

 

Whoever speaks, as one who utters oracles of God;

whoever renders service, as one who renders it by the

strength which God supplies; in order that in

everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ.

To him belong glory and dominion for ever and ever.

Amen.

- 1 Peter 4:11

 

Tend the flock of God that is your charge, not by

constraint but willingly, not for shameful gain but

eagerly, not as domineering over those in your charge

but being examples to the flock.

And when the chief Shepherd is manifested you will

obtain the unfading crown of glory.

Likewise you that are younger be subject to the elders.

Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one

another, for "God opposes the proud, but gives grace to

the humble."

- 1 Peter 5:2-5

 

 

"Life being what it is,

one dreams of revenge."

- Paul Gauguin

 

 

In the final analysis the destruction of the Jews was

not so much a product of laws and commands as it was

a matter of spirit, of shared comprehension, of

consonance and synchronization.

At every stage they displayed a striking pathfinding

ability in the absence of directives, a congruity of

activities without jurisdictional guidelines, a

fundamental comprehension of the task even when there

were no explicit communications.

- Raul Hilberg

The Genocidal Mentality p. 159

 

 

"When are you guys going to wise up? You got to know

what you're doing. You wouldn't treat yourselves that

way."

-Phillip

Jim Dudley

 

 

Finally, trust and embrace the dance going on before

and within you. It is life.... It is grace.... Its

community.

- Phil Jay

 

 

SEE EVERYTHING.

OVERLOOK A GREAT DEAL.

CORRECT A LITTLE.

- Pope John XXIII

 

 

We too are so dazzled by power and prestige as to

forget our essential fragility. Willingly or not we

come to terms with power, forgetting that we are all in

the ghetto, that the ghetto is walled in, that outside

the ghetto reign the lords of death, and that close by

the train is waiting.

- Primo Levi

The Drowned p. 69

 

 

How securely do we live, we men of the century's and

the millennium's end?

- Primo Levi

 

 

POLITENESS

IS THE CHIEF INGREDIENT

OF CULTURE

- Anon

 

 

PRAYER TO JESUS CRUCIFIED

Look down upon me, O good and gentle Jesus, while

before Thy face I humbly kneel, and with burning soul,

pray and beseech Thee to fix deep within my heart

lively sentiments of faith, hope and charity, true

contrition for my sins, and a firm purpose of

amendment; while I contemplate with great love and

tender pity Thy five precious wounds pondering over

them within me while I call to mind the words which

David Thy prophet said of Thee my Jesus: "They pierced

my hands and my feet: they numbered all my bones."

O Sacred Heart of Jesus, shower Thy blessings in

abundant measure upon all our benefactors; reward, O

Lord, with eternal life all those who do us good and

for Thy name's sake. Grant them health of mind and body

that they may ever love Thee with all their strength

and, by perfect love, May they do whatever is pleasing

to Thee. Extend over their hearts the sweet empire of

Thy love. Amen.

 

 

Proverbs 10:15 A rich man's wealth is his strong

city; the poverty of the poor is their ruin.

 

 

Proverbs 13:23 The fallow ground of the poor yields

much food, but it is swept away through injustice.

Proverbs 14:20 The poor is disliked even by his

neighbor, but the rich has many friends.

 

 

Proverbs 14:21 He who despises his neighbor is a

sinner, but happy is he who is kind to the poor.

 

 

Proverbs 14:31 He who oppresses a poor man insults

his Maker, but he who is kind to the needy honors him.

 

 

Proverbs 16:19 It is better to be of a lowly spirit

with the poor than to divide the spoil with the proud.

 

 

Proverbs 17:5 He who mocks the poor insults his

Maker; he who is glad at calamity will not go

unpunished.

 

 

Proverbs 19:4 Wealth brings many new friends, but a

poor man is deserted by his friend.

 

 

Proverbs 19:7 All a poor man's brothers hate him; how

much more do his friends go far from him! He pursues

them with words, but does not have them.

 

 

Proverbs 21:13 He who closes his ear to the cry of

the poor will himself cry out and not be heard.

 

 

Proverbs 22:9 He who has a bountiful eye will be

blessed, for he shares his bread with the poor.

 

 

Proverbs 22:16 He who oppresses the poor to increase

his own wealth, or gives to the rich, will only come to

want.

 

 

Proverbs 22:22 Do not rob the poor, because he is

poor, or crush the afflicted at the gate.

 

 

Proverbs 28:3 A poor man who oppresses the poor is a

beating rain that leaves no food.

 

 

Proverbs 28:15 Like a roaring lion or a charging bear

is a wicked ruler over a poor people.

 

 

Proverbs 28:27 He who gives to the poor will not

want, but he who hides his eyes will get many a curse.

 

 

Proverbs 29:7 A righteous man knows the rights of the

poor; a wicked man does not understand such knowledge.

 

 

Proverbs 29:13 The poor man and the oppressor meet

together; the LORD gives light to the eyes of both.

 

 

Proverbs 29:14 If a king judges the poor with equity

his throne will be established for ever.

 

 

Proverbs 31:9 Open your mouth, judge righteously,

maintain the rights of the poor and needy.

 

 

There are some remedies worse that the disease.

- Publilius Syrus

John Bartlett

Familiar Quotations

14 th ed.p125

 

In arrogance the wicked hotly pursue the poor; let them

be caught in the schemes which they have devised.

Psalms 10:2

 

He lurks in secret like a lion in his covert; he lurks

that he may seize the poor, he seizes the poor when he

draws him into his net.

Psalms 10:9

 

 

My neighbors,

treat me with contempt;

Those who know me are afraid of me;

when they see me in the street, they run away.

- Ps. 31:11 TEV

 

 

"Be healed, be healthy, be whole.

When you are feeling loss, the part that you lost is

with you.

and you are whole."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

 

"Be ready to accept what you get,

and the world is yours."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

"Confidence is a power

that comes from the inner knowledge

that you are at one with your purpose

Self-doubt and self-emanating

are the means by which a powerful person like you

re-creates this inner knowledge

at each new moment."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

"Every day the existence of the universe

depends on whether you care enough

to create it."

- Paul Williams

 

 

Remember Your Essence

"In this life

we find our way

by following each step with another.

Take a step

and follow it.

If you start to see a path emerging.

ignore it.

Do not follow a path

Follow your own footprints.

Your path will create itself."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

"It's true the pain of awareness

is often the pain

of your sense of separation

from where you'd like to be.

But do not struggle to end this separation!"

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence page. 57

 

 

"Know that you are on your path

and do not ask for a description of it.

Each moment follows the previous moment

and all your triumphs and failures,

your good luck and bad luck,

have brought you to right here, right now,

Do not question or evaluate this moment.

Enjoy it. Accept it.

It has taken you all your life to get here.

Relax, and trust the self that has brought you this far

You will receive your next assignment soon;

and you will know it when you receive it."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

"let go of your plans and schemes

and suddenly in the silence

you will hear the voices of your guides.

You may not know the names of these guides

but their voices will sound familiar.

Remember to ask for guidance.

Remember to listen.

Do not worry about what it is you're listening for.

Be still, and let it come.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence page. 65

 

 

"Now open your eyes.

Look around.

Welcome to this world you've created."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

"Something is calling you.

It has no name, and it is not something

you have seen or experienced before.

And yet it calls from your past

as well as from your future.

It has power.

You can smell it and taste it.

And even as you feel yourself resisting it.

you are responding to the call.

Your resistance is part of your response."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

"Take the first step,

The first step is always perfect

as long as you are ready

to take the step that follows it.

Only by taking the first step

can you find the step that follows it."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

"That person-your friend-the essence you're in the

presence of-is a teacher for you, if you allow it, who

can serve you in any and every area of your life that's

important to you right now. Everything you need or want

to know at this moment in your life, in every area

where you have a need or desire to grow, is here. What

you require and wish for is available to you and right

in front of you, and all you have to do to get it is be

with this person and notice everything that happens

while you're in his or her presence. An hour can be

enough, if you are awake enough. Five minutes could be

enough. The limitation is your willingness and ability

to let it in. This has nothing to do with what the

other person does. Your teacher is his or her essence.

Your opportunity is to let it act on you."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

"The God you lost

and the paradise you lost

are also still with you."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

The question "What is right?"

humbly asked,

is a daily, hourly meditation

to re connect you

with your purpose.

You are on your path

look around.

Notice what you're feeling.

Ask. "What is right?"

Now you are ready to take the next step.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

"There is nothing you need to know.

As of this moment, you are free of any obligation.

You may go in any direction you like.

You are reborn."

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

This is your world

You have created every aspect, every detail of it

for your own entertainment and satisfaction.

The parts you don't like you created so there would be

parts you don't like.

The parts you don't know about you created because

it wouldn't be any fun if there weren't parts you

didn't know about.

The things you want and don't have you created so

you'd have something to strive for.

the things you'd do anything to have be different

you created in order to provide yourself with

motivation.

You created all of it - not by making it but by

noticing it, distinguishing it, separating it out.

Until you came along, it was undifferentiated light.

You turned it into a world of detail, a planet filled

with distinction and life.

You have it exactly the way you want it.

Awesome, isn't it?"

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

Welcome your wounds.

they are manifestations of hidden fears.

Without them, your fears would stay hidden.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

You are afraid

of the touch of fire.

And yet you live for it.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

You are here to remember.

Remember means re-experience.

Every breath you take re-creates this miracle called

your body, your life.

Be aware of each breath,

and you will find yourself in the presence

of the living God.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

You are not alone.

You are part of a greater purpose.

It is not necessary to understand this purpose.

It is not possible to understand this purpose.

It is not been possible to understand your part

in this purpose.

What you can do is catch a glimpse of it

from the corner of your eye.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

You are responsible

for what you say

and what you do

and who you are.

When you feel overcome

by the pain of this awareness,

remember that you are loved.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

You have a presence that cannot be kept secret.

Your essence is visible, naked,

to anyone who cares enough to experience it.

You are a source of warmth and light.

And your purpose here is to be who you already are.

There is nothing else you need to be doing.

This is it.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

 

 

You have power.

The impact you have

on other people

and on the world around you

is the visible effect of your power.

Consciously or unconsciously,

you are using your power

at every moment.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

Your death is always with you

It is the most attractive part of you

When people tell you they love your eyes,

or the way you walk,

it is your mortality they're seeing.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

 

Your teachers

are everywhere.

Some you will recognize,

and some you will not recognize.

this is how it must be.

Do not try to know everything.

- Paul Williams

Remember Your Essence

Work of the eye is done, now go and do heart work

- Rilke

 

Accepting relationships are not based on a denial of

difference, but rather on the absence of impugning the

different person's moral character because of the

variation.

Rather than the differentness being the master status,

it is only part of the configuration.

Toward a Sociology of Acceptance: The Other Side of the

Study of Deviance Robert Bogdan & Steven Taylor

- Social Policy Fall 1987

No attribute of a person, no matter how atypical,

precludes accepting relations.

Toward a Sociology of Acceptance: The Other Side of the

Study of Deviance Robert Bogden & Steven Taylor

- Social Policy Fall 1987

O God, who lives in tenements, who goes to segregated

schools, who is beaten in precincts, who is

unemployed...

Help us to know you

O God who is cold in the slums of winter,

Whose playmates are rats-four legged ones

Who live with you and two-legged ones

Who imprison you...

Help us to touch you.

- Robert Castle

 

Few men during their lifetime come anywhere near

exhausting the resources within them. There are deep

wells of strength that are seldom used.

- Richard E. Boyd

 

FULGHUM'S LIST

1. Buy lemonade from any kid who is selling.

2. Any time you can vote on anything, vote.

3. Attend the 25th reunion of your high school class.

4. Choose having time over having money.

5. Always take the scenic route.

6. Give at least something to every beggar who asks.

7. Give money to all street musicians.

8. Always be someone's valentine.

9. When the circus comes to town, be there.

- Robert Fulghum

 

 

How do we serve others in the world? We serve them by

preparing ourselves to lead and by accepting the

opportunity to lead when it is offered. Our world is

hungry for compassionate, servant leaders. Talk about a

mission field! Changes in the world will be initiated

by those who are on the inside of the great

institutions and who seek to lead them into better

performance for the public good.

-Richard J. Foster

Money Sex & Power p. 243

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN

Most of what I really need to know about how to live

and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school

mountain, but there in the sandpile at Sunday school.

These are the things I learned:

Share everything

Play fair

Don't hit people

Put things back where you found them.

Clean up your own mess.

Don't take things that aren't yours.

Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.

Wash your hands before you eat.

Flush.

Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

Live a balanced life-learn some and think some and

draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work

every day some.

Take a nap every afternoon.

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,

hold hands and stick together.

Be aware of wonder.

- Robert Fulghum

 

 

If more serving institutions are to be built,

individuals who want to serve must, on their own, build

them where they are.

Not much will change until the builders within

institutions, those with competence and strength, begin

to move.

- Robert Greenleaf

Servant Leadership

 

 

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY

TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE,

THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN,

AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

- Reinhold Niebuhr

 

Your lacerations tell the losing game

You play against sickness past your cure.

How will the hands be strong?

How will the heart endure?

- Robert Lowell

 

I pay tribute to my profession, firm in the conviction

that it offers great opportunities for both moral

adventure and social usefulness than any other calling

if it is entered with open eyes and a consciousness of

the hazards to virtue which lurk in it. I make no

apology for being critical of what I love. No one

wants a love which is based upon illusions, and there

is no reason why we should not love a profession and

yet be critical of it.

- Reinhold Niebuhr

Leaves from the

Notebook of a Tamed Cynic, 1950

 

We have only begun to sense the fragile wound some

handicapped persons may feel when it dawns on them that

the only people relating with them - outside of

relatives - are paid to do so.

- Robert Perske

 

 

The destruction process required the cooperation of

every sector of German society. The bureaucrats drew up

the definitions and decrees; the churches gave

evidence of Aryan descent; the postal authorities

carried the messages of definition, expropriation,

denaturalization, and deportation; business

corporations dismissed their Jewish employees and took

over "Aryanized" properties; the railroads carried the

victims to their place of execution, a place make

available to the Gestapo and the SS by the Wehrmacht.

To repeat, the operation required and received the

participation of every major social, political and

religious institution of the German Reich.

- Richard Rubenstein

The Genocidal Mentality p. 168

 

 

Through my own experience, I learned that striving for

a positive mental attitude will get you nowhere unless

you have the ammunition to back it up. You develop a

positive mental attitude by being prepared, by

understanding the realities of what it takes to

succeed, and by being good at the necessary techniques.

It's a cycle: the more prepared a person is, the more

positive his attitude, and, therefore, the better his

chances of succeeding.

- Robert J. Ringer

 

Man is not a being who stands still, he is a being in

the process of becoming. The more he enables himself to

become, the more he fulfills his true mission.

- Rudolph Steiner

 

SOMETHING GREAT AND WONDERFUL

IS HAPPENING TODAY

AND I AM A PART OF IT.

- Dr. Robert Scott

 

Ideas have consequences.

- Richard Weaver

 

 

What we do best, lets do better

- R. Wolf

 

DICK & JANE

They've shared the same mat since they were

children,

lately though the staff has been setting them down

so that they're facing in opposite directions of one

another,

probably to avoid any funny stuff.

It doesn't matter that much though;

they'll nestle together no matter what,

knowing that they're all they have,

they learn to make do.

Her body is that of a child

though her face is taking on the features of a

beautiful

young woman;

looking into her hazel eyes, I'm almost mesmerized by

their sparkle,

It took me a while to figure out the score.

Finding pleasure in giving her lover a back rub

with spasmodic strokes of her arm, she massages the

small of his back;

smiling, he responds in kind by running his whiskers

through her toes,

she gives out a slight laugh;

they move an inch or two closer to each other

hoping that the staff doesn't pick up on the subtleties

of the moment;

they don't of course.

- Robert Williams

 

FOR DEBBIE, AT 26:

you simply can't understand

how difficult a time

adolescence was

unless you've just turned 26,

with no one to turn

to instruct you in the fine art

of the french kiss:

I feel son compelled to you,

like the tall and gangling kid

I never was.

little wonder,

that the awkwardness we feel

while in each other's arms

should still linger

and time alone

seemingly just serves

to complicate matters

all the more.

- Robert Williams

 

GALLANT AND GAUNT THEIR BEAUTY

Look deep.

deep into the eyes of my people:

Caged eyes,

Peering out

through the bars of their

sanitized, steel-white cribs.

Do not try to evade

their entrancing gaze

for it will not release you.

Look deep,

deep into the eyes of my people.

* * *

Look deep,

deep into the faces of my people:

Ageless but worn faces,

scarred beyond the years,

Tenuously connected to bodies,

twisted and bent

by gravity's pull

and years of lying supine.

Do not abandon those

others coldly ignore:

Look deep,

deep into the eyes of my people.

* * *

Look deep,

deep into the hearts of

my people:

Witness their horror,

Witness their pain.

Horror and pain

your spoken words alone

will never soothe.

Do not try to explain It away,

they will never believe you.

Look deep,

deep into the eyes of my people.

* * *

Look deep,

deep into the souls of

my people:

Feel their soft, entrancing spirit.

A spirit,

which time alone will never dim.

Look deep.

Deep into the eyes of my people

* * *

Gallant and gaunt, their beauty.

Beauty,

your spoken words can never

capture.

- Robert Williams

THE MARATHON MAN

Johnny ran.

that was his problem,

he was what the staff called a runner

logical since he ran whenever he could--

one minute

they thought they had him

three ways to sunday

tied to the bedpost

with someone else's soiled sheets,

 

then they'd no sooner turn around

and he'd be up to his harry houdini

routine all over again.

even the aides admitted he was pretty smart for being a

retard;

all the rest of them would sit and rock.

but not Johnny

he'd jump up

dart this way and that.

then the next thing you know

he'd find an open door

or leap through a window

and he'd be clocking the mile

on the institution's main drag

at three-point-ninety-two

like the long distant runner

he longed to be.

they tried vinegar spray,

four-point restraints,

even leaden shoes.

 

nothing slowed his free stride

until they placed electrodes on his hide

and shocked him.

shocked him silly.

now he's on the back ward

rocking to and fro

to and fro

to and fro...

- Robert Williams

 

 

To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people

and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of old and new friends;

To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others,

To leave the world a better place, whether by a healthy

child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition,

To know one life has breathed easier because you have

lived,

This is to have succeeded.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

Have patience, all things are difficult before they

become easy.

- Saadi

 

No man can live happily who regards himself alone, who

turns everything to his own advantage. You must live

for others if you wish to live for yourself.

- Seneca

 

To become what we are capable of becomming is the only

end of life.

- Spinoza

 

What does love look like? It has the hands to help

others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and

needy. It has the eyes to see misery and want. It has

the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is

what love looks like.

- Saint Augustine

 

You must go on a little more, you must go on a long

time more, you must go on forever more.

- Samuel Beckett

 

 

In the struggle for justice the only reward is - to

participate in the struggle.

- Steven Douglas

 

A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a

single man contemplates it, bearing within him the

image of a cathedral.

- Saint-Exupery

 

 

And now here is my secret, a very simple secret. It is

only with the heart that one can rightly see; what is

essential is invisible to the eye.

- Saint Exupery

 

Have patience with all things, but chiefly have

patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in

considering your own imperfections, but instantly set

about remedying them. Everyday begin the task anew.

- Saint Francis de Sales

 

To love our neighbor in charity is so to love God in

man, or man in God.

- Saint Francis of Sales

(1567-1622)

Sermons

 

 

Part of the problem today is that we have a surplus of

simple answers and a shortage of simple problems.

- "Thought for Today" in the Syracuse Herald

 

 

Suffering which falls to our lot in the course of

nature, or by chance, or fate, does not seem so painful

as suffering which is inflicted on us by the arbitrary

will of another.

- Schopenhauer

 

 

Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to

enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be

needed.

- Storm Jameson

 

 

Don't be afraid to go out on a limb. That's where the

fruit is.

 

 

Are we a community where all conflict is avoided and

differences are covered over? Do we see the poor?

Are we a community with organizations and groups

competing for power? Do we honor our differences?

Are we a community which allows emptiness and time for

healing? Do we have to control others or can we allow

the spirit to work through all of us?

Are we a community which nurtures and sustains itself?

Is our commitment a commitment to the permanent

well-being of all?

- M. Scott Peck

The Different Drum

 

 

I was overwhelmed by the suffering around me.

I prayed to God, saying "Stop it", and he responded:

"Stop it".

- Anonymous

 

 

Outstanding leaders go out of the way to boost the

self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in

themselves, its amazing what they can accomplish.

- Sam Walton

 

 

TO ENHANCE THE QUALITY

OF THE DAY

THAT IS THE HIGHEST

OF ARTS.

- Thoreau

 

 

The sole meaning of life is to serve humanity.

- Tolstoi

 

 

Should anyone turn aside the right of the stranger, it

is as though he were to turn aside the right of the

most high God.

- The Talmud

 

 

When mankind languisheth in pain let no man say I shall

return unto mine own household, eat and drink and be at

peace! Nay, each man must be willing to suffer with

his fellowmen. He who shares the afflictions of others

will merit to behold the comforting of humanity.

- The Talmud

 

 

There is less to this than meets the eye.

- T. Bankhead

 

 

Be kind. Remember everyone you meet is fighting a hard

battle.

- T. H. Thompson

 

 

He who has the gold makes the rules.

 

 

The growth and development of people is the highest

calling of leadership.

- Anon

 

 

THE HANDICAPPED AND THE WHOLENSS OF THE FAMILY OF GOD

The church's unity includes both the "disabled" and the

"able." A church which seeks to be truly united within

itself and to move towards unity with others must be

open to all; yet able bodied church members, both by

their attitudes and by their emphasis on activism,

marginalize and often exclude those with mental or

physical disabilities. The disabled are treated as the

weak to be served, rather than as fully committed,

integral members of the Body of Christ and the human

family; the specific contribution which they have to

give is ignored. This is the more serious because

disability--a world-wide problem--is increasing.

Accidents and illness leave adults and children

disabled; many more are emotionally handicapped by the

pressures of social change and urban living; genetic

disorders and famine leave millions of children

physically or mentally impaired. The Church cannot

exemplify "the full humanity revealed in Christ," bear

witness to the interdependence of humankind, or achieve

unity in diversity if it continues to acquiesce in the

social isolation of disabled persons and to deny them

full participation in its life. The unity of the

family of God is handicapped where these brothers and

sisters are treated as objects of condescending

charity. It is broken where they are left out. How

can the love of Christ create in us the will to discern

and to work forcefully aganst the causes which distort

and cripple the lives of so many of our fellow human

beings? How can the Church be open to the witness

which Christ extends through them?

The Fifth Assembly of the World Council of Churches in

Mairobi 1975 p.122 Strong at the Broken Places

 

 

The purpose of cooking is not the employment of cooks!

 

 

 

Three men were laying brick.

The first was asked, "What are you doing?"

He answered, "Laying some brick."

The second man was asked, "What are you working for?"

He answered, "Five dollars a day."

The third man was asked, "What are you doing?"

He answered, I am helping to build a great Cathedral."

Which man are you?

- Anon

 

 

The care of human life and happiness, and not their

destruction, is the first and only legitimate object of

good government.

- Thomas Jefferson

 

 

We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men

are created equal; that they are endowed by their

Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among

these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of

happiness...

- Thomas Jefferson

 

 

Guide us as we move through life and grow individually,

yet together. Fill our hearts with love and give us the

ability to express it to one another. Help us to turn

to each other for strength and touch our lives with

understanding. Lead us through times of trouble and

give to us the strength to do as needed. Help us to

earn each others trust and give us the ability to

forgive when hurt. Let us share our smiles and sorrows

to care and give unselfishly. We in turn shall do our

best to live our lives as family.

- Anon

 

 

Regard your neighbor's gain as your own gain, and your

neighbor's loss as your own loss.

- Toaist Golden Rule

T'ai Shang Kan Ying P'ien

 

 

Management by wandering around, may be the most

important thing managers can do to improve work quality

and productivity.

- Thomas Peters and Robert H. Waterman

In Search of Excellence

 

 

In a dark time the eye begins to see.

- Theodore Roethke

The Nazi Doctors

 

 

Our great human adventure is the evolution of

consciousness. We are in this life to enlarge the soul

and light up the brain.

- Tom Robins

 

 

Your neighbor's right is God's right.

- Turkish Proverb

 

 

Mental retardation is not something that can be

simply and scientifically defined, discussed,

dissected applied or studied. Mental retardation is

related to our very understanding of humanity, of human

potential, of educability, of equality, of rights and

privilege, of everything we are and everything that

relates to us.

 

 

Ready, Fire, Aim

- Executive at Cadbury's

UNITED METHODISTS COUNCIL OF BISHOPS 1986

We write in defense of creation. We do so because the

creation itself is under attack. Air and water, trees

and fruits and flowers, birds and fish and cattle, all

children and youth, women and men live under the

darkening shadows of a threatening nuclear winter. We

call the United Methodist Church to more faithful

witness and action in the face of this worsening

nuclear crisis.

 

 

"The secret of the power of Christianity is that it

does not shrink from the abyss..... We are made aware

in hours of defeat that life has dimensions of which we

too easily lose sight when everything is going well."

Here, at any rate, is my own summary of all that I have

tried to say to you in the past few weeks. I believe

that men cannot fully exercise compassion until they

have experienced humiliation. I believe that, before

they can help the pariahs and felons of society, they

must stand beside them in the dock and in the prison.

Just as the fight for personal self-conquest takes

place in each new generation, so in every epoch has

been waged the struggle to eliminate war. But that

conflict has now reached a point at which man must

overcome this worst of his enemies or himself be

annihilated.

War begins first in the human soul. When a man has

learned how to wrest honor from humiliation, his

mastery of his own soul has begun and by just that much

he has brought the war against war nearer to victory.

He no longer looks to the men on the heights to supply

him with evidence that God exists.

 

Instead, he himself

from the depths, becomes part of that evidence. He has

proved that power itself is powerless against the

authority of love.

That you and I will each leave some such evidence

behind us, is the perpetual hope of

Your Mother.

- Vera Brittain to her son

 

 

A human being is not a thing among other things;

determine each other, but man is ultimately

self-determining. What he becomes-within the limits of

endowment and environment-he has made out of himself.

In the concentration camps, for example, in this living

laboratory and on this testing ground, we watched and

witnessed some of our comrades behave like swine while

others behaved like saints. Man has both

potentialities within himself; which one is actualized

depends on decisions but not on conditions.

 

 

Our generation is realistic, for we have come to know

man as he really is. After all, man is that being who

has invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz; however, he

is also that being who has entered those gas chambers

upright, with the Lord's prayer or the Shema Yisrael on

his lips.

- Victor E. Frankl

Man's Search for Meaning

The Disabled & their Parents

 

 

VISION

Our Vision is that of creating an environment where all

people can grow, make choices, and be valued and

contributing members of our community. In this vision

we see the welfare of all people being vested in the

welfare of each individual. We believe that at the

most basic level all of us want a secure home, a

family, good health, friends, work we find meaningful,

presence in our community and valued social roles.

We believe that all human life is sacred, having equal

and unconditional value.

We believe that it is important when encountering

others to see ourselves; recognizing and valuing

individual differences and diversity as a means of

validating our own uniqueness and affirming the great

diversity of the human community. Our services and

supports will value and be responsive to the cultural,

racial and ethnic diversity of the communities,

individuals and families we serve. We will strive to

assure that all levels of our organization reflect this

diversity.

We believe that at the most fundamental level, it is

the nature of all human beings to grow and develop

throughout their lives. We believe that people who

help others to grow and change are under mutual

obligation to grow and change themselves and the same

growth and change principles apply equally to all

people.

Within our intent is a deep commitment to decrease the

dependence of individuals and families on formal

services. All that we do, should contribute to

strength, growth, independence, interdependence and

increased capacity. However, when an individual or

family needs formal services those services, must

be effective and, when appropriate time limited.

Our Vision is that of supporting people within their

communities in natural settings of home, work,

neighborhood and school. Over time we believe our role

will increasingly change from that of a provider of

services to that of a facilitator and a community

organizer.

Our structure is that of a family of organizations that

share a common Vision and set of values. Our structure

allows us to operate both as a collaborative whole as

well as small individualized agencies.

We believe that we have an obligation to serve as a

change agent sharing our experience with others both

individually and within the public policy process.

We desire that many people will experience their work

as a calling. We wish to encourage and nurture such

deep commitments, as well as friendships, non-paid

relationships, and life sharing. We believe that it is

important to live in an environment where all of us

have the opportunity to consider the philosophical and

spiritual aspects of our work, doing so in an

individual and personal way.

In this time of rapid social change, much of what we do

encompasses the creation of new social forms and

structures that have value to all people. We believe

that our striving to accept, value and understand

great diversity in human qualities as well as the

creation of community is linked to our role in creating

a safer world.

 

 

Eighty percent of success is showing up.

- Woody Allen

 

We talk the talk but we don't walk the walk.

 

Trust is the emotional glue that binds followers and

leaders together.

- Warren Bennis & Bert Nanus

 

I come, in conclusion, to the difference between

"projecting" the future and making a promise, the

"projecting" of "futurologists" uses the future as the

safest possible context for whatever is desired: It

binds one only to selfish interest. But making a

promise binds one to someone else's future. If the

promise is serious enough, one is brought to it by

love, and awe and fear. Fear, awe and love bind us to

no selfish aim, but to each other. And they enforce a

speech more exact, more clarifying, and more binding

than any speech that can be used to sell or advocate

some "future." For when we promise in love and awe and

fear there is a certain kind of mobility that we give

up. We are speaking where we stand, and we shall stand

afterwards in the presence of what we have said.

- Wendell Berry

 

Remember, Heaven has an avenging rod; To smite the poor

is treason against God.

- William Cowper (1731-1800)

Charity

 

I was not the lion, but it fell to me to give the

lion's roar.

- Winston Churchill

 

 

It is not enough that we do our best;

sometimes we have to do what's required.

- Winston Churchill

Never, never, never quit.

- Winston Churchill

 

The empires of the future are empires of the mind.

- Winston Churchill

 

 

The nose of the bulldog has been slanted backwards so

that he can breathe without letting go.

- Winston Churchill

 

 

What is the use of living if it be not to strive for

noble causes and to make this muddled world a better

place to live in after we are gone.

- Winston Churchill

 

 

When the eagles are silent the parrots begin to jabber.

- Winston Churchill

 

It is awesome and responsible to consider one's world

as one's representation. Then I am responsible when

the world gets mean and small, angry or guilty. I am

not only my brother's keeper. I am my brother.

Wilson Ban Dusen

Person to person

The Disabled & their Parents

Leo Buscaglia Ph.D. 1983

Our age, if it is to deliver on its promise, needs

people who can reach beyond that which is already

determined, that which is already predictable, that

which can already be expected, and take the lead in

creating new possibility.

- Werner Erhard

Well led followers feel useful, important and part of a

worthwhile enterprise.

- Anon

 

The service we render to others is really the rent we

pay for our room on this earth. It is obvious that man

is himself a traveller; that the purpose of this world

is not "to have and to hold" but "to give and serve."

There can be no other meaning.

- Sir Wilfred T. Grenfell

 

 

Man is the only animal that laughs and weeps; for he

is the only animal that is struck with the difference

between what things are, and what they aught to be.

- William Hazlitt

 

 

Happiness is essentially a state of going somewhere

wholeheartedly without regret or reservation.

- William H. Sheldon

 

"My dear, we live in a time of transition," said

Adam as he led Eve out of Paradise."

- W. Inge

 

 

Compared to what we ought to be, we are only half

awake.

- William James

 

 

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to

be appreciated.

- William James

 

 

The best use of life is to invest it in something which

will out last life.

- William James

 

 

I know the enemy's brother.

- W. S. Merwin

For Now

The Moving Target p. 95

 

 

Ideas go booming through the world louder than cannons.

Thoughts are mightier than armies. Principles have

achieved more victories than horsemen or chariots.

- W.M. Paxton

 

 

Whereas the Supreme Power of the universe has deemed

it natural to create human beings of various colors,

races, and creeds; and

Whereas in his sight they all are his equally beloved

children;

Therefore be it resolved that there is no superior

race or group of peoples and that all men are brothers

of equal rank; and be it further resolved that we know

this and believe it now and forever!

- W. Newman

 

 

I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good

therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can

show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me

not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way

again.

- William Penn

 

 

Even though you're on the right track--you'll get run

over if you just sit there.

- Will Rogers

 

 

Cheated of feature by dissembling nature,

Deform'd, unfinish'd, sent before my time

Into this breathing world scarce half made up,

And that so lamely and unfashionable

That dogs bark at me as I halt by them.....

- William Shakespeare

King Richard III

act 1, scene 1, lines 19-23

 

 

Life is a battle in which we fall from wounds we

receive in running away.

- William L. Sullivan

 

 

Real joy comes not from ease or riches or from the

praise of men, but from doing something worthwile.

- Sir Wilfred T. Grenfell

 

Intimacy with God means becoming filled with love

towards everyone--love which means the desire to do

what will be good for them and not what will be good or

pleasant for us.

- William Temple

Daily Readings

 

 

There are many people, especially wounded and

handicapped people, who now do not have viable,

relatively unconditional one-to-one supportive

relationships. If people are no longer willing to

engage in those kinds of relationships, laws can be

passed, unlimited funds can be allocated -- and still,

nothing will work....if individual citizens, on a

personal basis do not bind the wounds of the sick, do

not give bread to the hungry, do not console the

broken-hearted and visit the imprisoned, do not

liberate the captives of oppression and do not bury the

dead, then nothing will work.

- Wolf Wolfensberger

 

 

We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers.

They see things in the soft haze of a spring day or in

the red fire of a long winter's evening. Some of us let

these great dreams die, but others nourish and protect

them; nurse them through bad days till they bring them

to the sunshine and light which comes always to these

who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true.

- Woodrow Wilson

 

Where there is passion, there is hope

- W. Wolfensberger

 

 

To the Commonwealth Institute

Your mission is to:

* Create a few islands of excellence.

* Save a few good staff.

* Minimize atrocities.

- W. Wolfensberger

 

 

"I do not think that, to prevent the propogation of

this class (mental retardation) it is necessary to kill

them off or to resort to the knife; but, if it is

necessary, it should be done" (Johnson, 1901, pp.

410-411).Barr, 1915, pp. 361-363). 

 

"We must come to recognize

feeble-mindedness, idiocy, imbecility, and insanity as

largely communicable conditions or diseases, just as

the ordinary physician recognized smallpox, diptheria,

etc., as communicable"

Bullard (1910, pp. 14-15), 

 

"Girls of the classes

described (mentally retarded) must be cared for by the

state . . . There is no class of persons in our whole

population who, unit for unit, are so dangerous or so

expensive to the state. This excepts no class, not

even the violently insane. They are much more

dangerous and expensive than the ordinary insane or the

ordinary feeble-minded or the ordinary criminal.

There is probably no class of persons who are more

fitted and more apt to spread disease and moral evil

than these girls. One evil girl may corrupt a whole

village. A single feeble-minded girl among a group of

young boys becomes a plague-spot, the consequences of

which are frightful" (Butler, 1915, p. 358).

...on Charities and correction, 1888, p. 396), and Taft

(*1918, p. 5450 ominously referred to a

"...final...solution...", a term that would come into

its full meaning 20 years later.

"The adult males become the town loafers and

incapables, the irresponsible pests of the

neighborhood, petty thieves, purposeless destroyers of

property, incendiaries, and very frequently violators

of women and little girls. The social and economic

burdens of uncomplicated feeble-mindedness are only too

well known. The feeble-minded are a parasitic,

predatory class, never capable of self-support or of

managing their own affairs. The great majority

ultimately become public charges in some form. They

cause considerable sorrow at home and are a menace and

danger to the community. Every feeble-minded person,

especially the high-grade imbecile, is a potential

criminal, needing expression of his criminal

tendencies. The unrecognized imbecile is a most

dangerous element in the community."

(Howe, 1848, 1852, 866), e.g.: "It appeared to us

certain that the existence of so many idiots in every

generation must be the consequence of some violation of

the natural laws; --that where there was so much

suffering, there must have been sin"

(1848, p. 4). Greene (1884, p. 270) 

 

"Our wards are

innocent of crime or fault In the large majority of

instances, they are the feeble and deformed expressions

of parental sins or sorrows."

"Nosworthy (1907) probably expressed latent sentiments

most honestly when, in all seriousness, she raised the

question whether the feeble-minded constitute a

separate species, and then designed a study to

investigate this matter."

"The one effective way to diminish the number of the

feeble-minded in future generations is to prevent the

birth of those who would transmit feeble-mindedness to

their descendants." "Indeed, the results of eugenic

research are so impressive that we are almost convinced

that we are in possession of knowledge which would

enable us to markedly diminish the number of the

feeble-mind in a few generations if segregation or

surgical sterilization of all known defectives were

possible" (Fernald, 1915, p. 290).

 

Deutsch also described a case cited by Dorothea Dix in

1847, in which a harmless deranged person was kept

summer and winter in an open pen. He was fed hog slop

and kept on straw which was changed every two weeks in

summer, less often in winter. He was exposed to rain,

heat, cold, and snow, and his feet had frozen off into

shapeless stumps. The keepers of this wretch, however,

saw themselves as offering kindly treatment."

A 1787 visitor at Pennsylvania Hospital, the first U.S.

public institution to receive the mentally afflicted

for treatment, saw naked residents bedded in straw, in

locked, underground dungeonlike cells that had small

windows for passing food, and he exclaimed in seeming

self-satisfaction that "...every possible relief is

afforded them in the power of man," rejoicing in"...the

pleasing evidence of what humanity and benevolence can

do..." (Deutsch, 1949, p. 62).

 

Taft (1918), ...when by segregation we mean a fairly

complete shutting off from society of all the

feeble-minded, including the higher grade types, we

ignore a profound aversion on the part of people in

general to confinement for life for any human being,

particularly when no offense has been committed

commensurate with such punishment and when the

individual to be segregated seems to the ordinary

observer not to be very different from himself. This,

combined with the feeling which relatives, particularly

of the high grade feeble-minded have against

segregation, makes any very complete program of this

kind quite impossible for some time to come" (P. 545).

"The experience of the past thirty years proves that,

of those who are received and trained in institutions,

10 to 20 per cent are so improved as to be able to

enter life as breadwinners; that from 30 to 40 per cent

are returned to their families so improved as to be

self-helpful, or at least much less burdensome to their

people; "All of our schools for the feeble-minded have

succeeded in sending out a goodly number of persons

who are bearing bravely their share of the burden of

life" (Rogers, 1888, p. 102).

- From " The Origin and Nature of our Institutional

Models" Wolf Wolfensberger

 

That nature alone is good, which refrains from doing

unto another whatsoever is not good for itself.

- Zoroastrian Golden

 

After the enlightenment the laundry

- Zen Saying.

 

 

 

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